How do you know if someone is competing with you or if it's a coincidence?

Question

And is it ok to compete back to show them who's boss and that you're onto them?

Answer 1

you get a feeling like their trying to one up them

i have this person at work who is trying to one up me even though i have been there the longest

i secretly try to one up here and i have

i think it is okay to show them who is boss

Answer 2

If what's a coincidence?

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