How do you know if you've reached the point in a relationship, where it's beyond all repair?

Question

I've lived a sinful life and hurt many people I love. Something I just realized the extrent of. I've been selfish and my loved ones have no reason to love me or forgive me. I just don't know how to tell when a relationship has reached a point where there will never be love or forgiveness again no matter what I do.

I'm moving forward in my own life, with my own healing no matter what, but I carry certain people around in my heart always. I'm trying to decide if I should give up all hope of reconnected and trying to heal my broken, wounded relationships.

Answer 1

You need to apologize and give them time. Three steps to an apology: 1. Say you're sorry, 2. Tell them you didn't mean to hurt them, 3. Ask what you can do to make it better.

Give them time-just because you are ready to apologize doesn't mean they're ready for it.

Answer 2

You can always heal broken relationships and past hurts.  Put some time and space between yourself and the issues at hand.  Do some self searching and forgive yourself.  No matter what you think you have done that is so bad, it sounds like you have learned from it and that is part of growing.  It happens to us all.  Sometimes it really stinks but when you look back on it you will realize there is always a reason.  Give yourself and those involved some time and space and then if you find that you want to reconnect, do so and talk things through.  Tell them what you were feeling that made you do the things you did, even if you don't know why.  Just talk it through.  Good luck and don't be so hard on yourself.  You will stand in the way of your own healing.... coming from someone who knows.  My boyfriend tells me I do this all the time.  Get in my own way....

Answer 3

My Dear friend,

Don't accuse yourself for the failure of relationship. You loved a person, now it was his turn to love you, which he could not justify. In love, the person becomes possessive. So, did you. You are not guilty for any reasons. Time factor will heal up all your wounds you sustained. But in future beware of making  bad selections of the people. All people are not alike. Love is God. If someone you happen to meet, understands this, you will never get this kind of situation. Forget about re-union, if it is not broken on account of your bad behaviour. If that be so, try to apologise to bridge the gap. God bless you.