How do you know if you love someone enough to marry them?

Question

How can you tell? What are the signs…do they do special things…do you “feel” it automatically?

And how are you sure?

Answer 1

The only way you will ever be sure is to learn about good relationship skills and then see if your partner either knows these skills or is willing to learn them....

because... good relationship skills will almost guarantee you a wonderful and long lasting relationship...

without these skills, it's nearly certain your relationship will FAIL.

Answer 2

you can feel it inside you will no wat 2 do  

Answer 3

It's your own choice. Follow your heart, it'll tell you if you love him. If he's getting ready to propose then he might start acting a little more nervous around you or might set up this huge date that you have to go to. When the time is right, you'll know.  

Answer 4

You dont really.

Most people have skeletons in the closet

Answer 5

I think that you truly love an individual when the vicarious pain you experience as a result observing your significant other in pain exceeds that of your significant other's firsthand pain.

When you truly love someone, marry them.

Answer 6

If you have no doubts, you shouldn't marry.  You have to get beyond the giddy, romantic beginning of the relationship and into reality.  I think a lot of people think they've found their "soul mate" and that they are now going to ride away into the sunset and live happily ever after.

Then, 9 years later, they've got two kids, a mortgage, and 20 or 30 or 50 extra pounds between them.  

I don't believe in "soul mates," because marriage just isn't that easy.  It isn't just a matter of finding the "one."  

But, I'll tell you, I did know pretty soon after meeting my now husband, that we were going to get married.  It just felt right and everything fell into place, without being forced.  

I'm just saying, though, that just because something feels right, doesn't mean it is perfect.  Nothing is perfect.  You will have to accept his faults, and he will have to accept yours too.  You will have to go through hard times with him.  

The difficult part about the beginning of a relationship, is that you're not very objective.  It is very important for you to listen to the people around you who love you, your family and friends.  They only have your best interest at heart and aren't so close to the situation that they don't notice things.  

Answer 7

In life there are no certainties.  There will always be a risk when making decisions involving human beings.  With marriage just make sure that you give your relationship enough time before making a decision.  I come from a generation who wouldn't have dared to live with someone before getting married.  That made the risk side of things even greater.  What we have is a bigger sense of commitment.  In the modern world people are generally more selfish and have no real sense of commitment.  It is a throw away society and folk are happy to throw people away as well.  So the question is - are you willing to make a real commitment to this other person even when things go wrong in the relationship?  Would you have enough love to work through problems?  If not then forget marriage.

Answer 8

When u think you are done with your education.

Answer 9

It's like that really annoying EHarmony commercial..

'You'll just know'

Other than that.., besides the fact that love can and usually be overrated..

here are a couple of things to ask yourself

- if this person walks into a room, do you feel giddy like a schoolgirl each time, and or butterflies?

- when you think of your ideal mate instead of someone like Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie do you picture  him/her and actually mean it.

-If he/she were to pop the 'will you marry me question' would you hesitate?

**If you think you would hesitate (to me) that means there is about a 99.9% chance that this isn't the person you want to marry.

**the other 00.1% can mean that you're just in total shock and awe.  

Answer 10

ask yourself these questions

1. Do you find yourself uncontrollably thinking about him?

2. When you see him to you feel all warm and fuzzy inside?

3. Does he make you smile (Happy)?

4. Can you imagine your future with him?

5. Do you want to marry him?

If you answered yes to all these questions i think that you are well on your way to true love. And if it is true love then you should definitely get married.  

Answer 11

when you feel like you could spend a few years with them happily before divorcing and moving on.

Answer 12

we lived together for a year. we did get mad at each other but it was really no big deal. we could talk about anything. i mean anything. we had not secrets. he left his dirty socks on the floor and i was ok with it. I left my tampon box on the back of his toilet and he was ok with it. i got sick and he took care of me. he got sick and i took care of him. the s*x was just as good the next year as it was the first, no wait i lie, it was better because we were more open and communicated even more.

I think when you can be you. the real you, the no makeup no hair brushed, bloated 2nd day of your period, cramps bitchy and in your PJ's and he still loves you and puts up with your bi&^%in and wining, and when he can leave his dirty dishes on the counter half full of milk in the summer for you to clean up and toss hi socks on the floor and stomp mud all over your mopped floor after he has had a long day. and you can go to bed together not mad, and still love each other its right.

Its when you can be you, and he can be him. when you know all of the imperfections and you love them all the more for them. when you don't need to change them to make them better, they are perfect (as perfect as a human can be) for you. Its the one.

Answer 13

"It's not the person you can picture the rest of your life with it's the person you can't picture the rest of your life without"

Answer 14

When you can't imagine your life without them. When you love and respect them for who they are, not what you think you'll change them into. Accepting them for who they are now.

Answer 15

You just do..When you feel like you wanna spend forever with that person than you know...

Answer 16

Kitty, if any one of us held the answer to this question, nobody would ever get divorced. Most people who get married are sure they are in love with "that" someone enough to marry them and so they do. It doesn't always work out. For some, there are signs that it wouldn't have and for others there was nothing they could tell that might interfere. To answer your question, you are never sure.  

Answer 17

you just know that they are the one. no doubts, no worries, just complete sureness that they are the one.

Answer 18

Hello,

It must be a really confusing decision to make. But, I'll give you an example: Would you choose to dive into a river without first learning to swim? Such a foolish act could be harmful—even deadly. Think, though, of how many people jump into marriage with little awareness of how to take on the responsibilities involved.Having a mate with whom to share life's joys and sorrows is truly a blessing. Marriage can fill a void caused by loneliness or despair. It can satisfy our inborn craving for love, companionship, and intimacy. true, being married can solve some problems. But it will introduce some new ones too. Why? Because marriage is the blending of two distinct personalities that are perhaps compatible but hardly identical. Now also think of it this way: Problems give a husband and wife opportunity to show the genuineness of their love for each other. To illustrate: A cruise ship may seem majestic as it sits idle, moored at a pier. Its true seaworthiness, however, is proved at sea—perhaps even amid the crashing waves of a storm. Similarly, the strength of a marriage bond is not solely defined during peaceful moments of romantic calm. At times, it is proved under trialsome circumstances in which a couple weathers storms of adversity.And To do so, a married couple needs commitment, for you must know that God purposed that a man would "stick to his wife" and that the two would "become one flesh." (Genesis 2:24) The idea of commitment frightens many people today. Yet, it is only reasonable that two people who truly love each other will want to make a solemn promise to stay together. Commitment accords the marriage dignity. It provides a basis for confidence that, come what may, a husband and wife will support each other If you are not ready for such a commitment, you are not really ready for marriage. If you want more information on the subject i recommend for you to go to the link below ( thje 1st one is about what i was telling you about ) ... ( the second one is an index that also talks about other very usefuil articcles ) Hope it will help! : o)

1st   http://www.watchtower.org/e/19990215/art...

2nd  http://www.watchtower.org/e/archives/ind...

Answer 19

when you love them not for who they are but in-spite of it, if you both agree on children, how many and how they are to be raised and disciplined, and if you can tolerate his mother then you are ready.

Answer 20

when you realize that you cannot even image life without them. you know that they complete you and make you feel whole.

Answer 21

You dont.

That is to say.

There is not a list of 100 box's that must be ticked for it to be right.  

One often not considered unknown is the fact we change as we grow older. How can you know what each other will change into?

If you do and it fails then so be it.    

If you don't do it you will always be wondering what would have happened. .

If your totally honest you have little to loose and everything to gain.

Answer 22

when you can :

communicate openly

put them first

trust

and realise looks fade

marriage takes 2 working at it

then you are ready.