How do you know if your ready for s*x? Wrong category i know, sorry.?

Question

Ok, now before we get into this, if you disaprove, dont answer.

Im 14, been with my bf for 4 weeks and he has fingerd me when we were drunk.

Im not sure if im ready for s*x yet, how do you know if your ready?

Should i do it with him, we were going to when drunk but decided not too, and im going to a party with him soon where i will be drinking, should i do it then?

Only helpful answers wanted, not dissaproving ones, dissaproving one will NOT be read.

Thaanks x

Answer 1

If you have to ask then I would say no you are not ready. s*x should be between two people who care for each other. So why would you want to be drunk. You will do what you want so please use protection. It could cost you more than just a jump in the sack.

Answer 2

You'll k now when your ready, but don't rush things, be comfortable with him and yourself, if not, you will not enjoy yourself...believe me.

Answer 3

4weeks is not alot,i noe ppl will tell u that its rong and stuff..DONT listen to that

but i suggest u wait,ur my age and i defoo not ready for this and i have been with my bf for over 4months...hmm dont get drunk and do it,thats shows ur scared u might hurt or of the consequences..are you?

hope i helped:) xoxo

Answer 4

alright well you're only 14, and you and your boyfriend have only been dating for 4 weeks. barely a month. he already fingered you. to me that already seems a little too far, and i don't think you're ready for s*x. since you're asking it here instead of following your heart and making your own decisions. by the way don't have s*x after you drink since you could end up not using protection and stuff and you could end up getting pregnant.

Answer 5

The disapproving answers are where you should be lookin' sister.

Answer 6

id say go, have a good time with him but dont have s*x...youre not ready yet, stick to just kissing at 14 and dont drink too much, you'll only regret it trust me. have fun! x

Answer 7

your obviously not ready if yooh had to asked us.. yooh will just get this feeling and then yooh will go for it.. anyway yooh together too short of a period to feel right to do it with him.. yooh will feel it when the time is right.. also dont get pressured into it.

goodluck

Answer 8

Well i wont say anything about the fact that your only 14, so defiantly not ready. But seriously, you have been with the guy for 4 weeks and you are thinking about s*x?!!! No way!!

And what the heck are you going to be drinking for. 14 is FAR to young to be drinking. Do your parents approve of this?? Plus why would you want your first time to be drunk s*x?

Seriously pull your head together girly and dont do it!!

Answer 9

Heyy, i'm 14 too :) First of all, i wouldn't do anything when your drunk, you never know you could forget bout birth control ect! Youu do silly things when your drunk ;) I think your ready when you feel you have truley found the right person and love him more than anything and feel you can trust and will feel comfortabe around him no matter what. Age is just a number! But, think bout the consequences too! Pregnancy diseases ect. i know theres birth control ect. but i've heard of them going wrong. Why do you want to do it when your drinking anyway? Sorry just curious? =S Wont you forget it :L

Rightt, wel anyway i don't think your ready just yet because your questioning yourelf about it! You need to be 100% sure you want it!

Hoope thiss helps :)

xoxox

Answer 10

i dont think your ready cuase afterwords your probally just feel used and the girl above me is right dont do it maybe some one better will come along.

Answer 11

i am just saying that if you are drunk then you will not have correct judgement and may get hurt, but you are not ready yet because if you are ready you will feel love and not have to question it

Answer 12

14 is abit too young to be drinking but anyway, around the same age I did the same thing so yeah your ready. But I don't think you should have s*x being drunk because you might not use protection and forget you did it in the morning and not clock to take the pill. So go ahead don't forget to use protection and good luck x

Answer 13

if you arent sure if your ready dont do it

Answer 14

having s*x with someone is taking a big leap into the relationship, and it also makes the relationship more serious.

you need to no that you trust this person before you do anything.

also, just because you are drunk, doesnt mean that you can do things. if you really are ready, you would want to do it sober, so that you can remember that 'first time'

when you are ready, you no you are ready, and you shouldnt have to ask that question, which tells me that your perobably not ready.

have a good think about it before you rush into anything.

x

Answer 15

first of all if you have to ask then you are not ready. when you are ready you WILL know.

secondly you havn't been together very long! you should do it with someone you love and someone you've been with for a while who respects you at least.

plus you guys are only 14 you're WAY too young!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

im not saying you're irresponsible and wont use protection but imagine if you forgot an became pregnant or had an STI!!!!

lastly why would you want to do it when you are drunk? how unromantic..........fine s*x may not always be romantic but when youre drunk you'll be all over the place and probably won't remember much!

i dont mean to sound like a lecturer but i just think you guys should wait a little longer........but if you cant DON'T FORGET TO USE PROTECTION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 16

definitally a no. especially if youre NOT SURE. youre very young. and being drunk makes it harder to be responsible.

Answer 17

UUMMMM, well id wait just a little longer. just so you guys can grow together emotionally. and you houldnt do it drunk. at least do it sober. it would mean so much more to the both of you. you should have s*x out of love and not lust. so make sure youre sober!

Answer 18

If you have to ask, then you're not ready.

You're only 14 and have only been together for 4 weeks.

Some adults are together for yearsss and still don't have s*x.

Wait until you're completely ready and can deal with the possible consequences.

Do you really want a child at 14? An std?

That wouldn't be very fun..

Wait till you're older.

When you're ready to have s*x, you'll know it.

Answer 19

Right category, wrong mindset.  You shouldn't be drinking.  If you get pregnant, you can badly damage the baby (fetal alcohol syndrome, which is incurable).  You can also easily wind up having s*x with more than just your boyfriend.  s*x and alcohol and s*x and drugs are bad combinations.

You could say that you're ready for s*x when you're mature enough to realize that 14 is too young to be having s*x and risking pregnancy and STDs.  Intercourse = babies, and you shouldn't be making babies until you're out of school and earning enough (with health insurance) to pay for all that  a child will need from birth through high school.

In one way, it's a big step from letting your boyfriend m********e you to having intercourse with him, and in another way, it's a dangerously short step.  You know you shouldn't be taking this step, or you wouldn't have asked a bunch of strangers for support.  Do yourself and your future babies a favor and avoid any situation where you might step over the line -- like parties where you know there's going to be drinking and a boyfriend who isn't any more mature than you are.

Answer 20

I don't really think you are ready. 4 weeks isn't that long really, and fingering is a bit far already. If you don't know if you are ready, then you aren't.

Also, if you feel that you have to be drunk to be able to do it, then it's not something you should be doing.

Please wait, and don't get pressurised into anything you aren't comfortable doing. If your boyfriend tries to make you do it, ditch him because he obviously doesn't care what you want.

Answer 21

I don't think you should! You've only known him for four weeks.. he could be some guy who just wants s*x. I think you should wait until you know him a lot more better! I suggest maybe around 4 months~! Know that if anything was to happen he loves you for you and not for the s*x!! So you should wait! Plus, you are only 14! Don't let guys use you! Wait until you are older and that you know the guy really well! Good luck! -^_^-

Answer 22

I think it would be hard not to have any dissaproving replies. I will try my best to answer this question without being do dissapproving.

I do not think there is an exact age for anyone to be ready for s*x. Having s*x is a decission that has to made maturely. My opinion 14 is to young, but if it is something you are going to do, protect yourself and do not do it when you are drunk or have been drinking. You don't need alcohol in the mix, it will be a dangerous combination.  

You are only 14 and have a whole lot of life ahead of you. Take a step back and look at where you life is going.  I will be worth it.

Good luck in what you decide, just be careful. I have a 13 year old and could not imagine this question coming from her.

Answer 23

You will just know when you are ready.

I waited untill I was 17.

You should not do it for the first time when you are drunk.

It should be with someone you love and that understands you.

You are very young. If you start having s*x now... by the time your 18 you will probably have been with a lot of men.

He will not respect you. You have only been together for 4 weeks. Its to soon.

Good luck with everything.

Please wait.

ADD: s*x leads to a lot of consequences, you should understand everything before you have s*x. If you are not ready for a baby then dont do it. If you dont know what can and cannot get you pregnant, dont do it. You can also get stds, if you decide not to wait. Please use protection!

Answer 24

You know you are ready if you really love him.

You know you are ready when you are prepared to deal with the potential risks (pregnancy, STD's, etc).

You know you are ready when you don't have to ask someone if you are ready.

Answer 25

It doesn't sound like you're ready, you're already being irresponsible.  Drinking at 14, partying, no way.

Not being disrespectful to you, but as a 25 year old who has been through High school before and lived life, and as a parent, I am telling you you are not ready.

You need to wait and get your life on track.  You're 14, you don't need an STD or a baby or to be drinking.

Answer 26

1. When you are able to look each other in the eyes and tell each other your deepest secrets-while sober.

2. When you are emotionally, physically and financially mature and stable and are prepared to raise a family of your own. (condoms break, and unexpected things happen)

3. When you are mature enough to realize that 14 is too young to be getting drunk and that you are responsible for all of your actions.

4. When you can handle the consequences both emotionally, physically and financially, of having s*x and possibly becoming pregnant, without your parents' help.

5. When you are in a relationship where both parties are in love, are best friends, and have decided to share the rest of your lives together. When you know that he won't leave you for another woman, if you become pregnant, or contract some horrible std. When you know that he would put you before his friends, family and himself and when he wants only the best for you even if it means giving up his selfish desires.

Basically, when you love, honor and respect each other-when you are sober.

Answer 27

Well, I wouldn't do it when you are drunk because that shows that you are not ready to do it when you are your normal self. I don't want my first time to be when I am out of my mind!

I guess you're not ready if you are not sure. You will know when you are ready. You have plenty of time :)

xxxxxx

Answer 28

Dont do it you will regret it for the rest of your life, you want your first time to be special and not a drunken nightmare and you will know when your ready try waiting till your 15 maybe 16 because my first time was the most horried experiance of my life!

Answer 29

well, if your asking, your not ready, i will tell u i was 14 when i became sexually active for the rong reasons, and it increases your chances of contracting STD's, teen pregnancy and has a 98% chance of ending u up with a broken heart! i never contracted any STD's but im 18, and im almost 9 months prego, (due in 32 days) and i had more then my share of heart brakes, your "cherry" is like pringles once it pops; u wont stop lol, and it will probably lead to a slightly-very high partner number causeing it to be difficult to determine where u may have contracted a STD, OR who fatherd your baby (thank god none of that happened to me!)

but good luck make your decision wisely!

REMEMBER THE CONDOMS!

Answer 30

i would wait if i were you. i started at fifteen and i should of waited. letting him touch you will only frustrate him so i wouldnt recommend that either. how do you  know? it comes naturally without stimulants like alcohol. you definitely dont want to start off havin s*x drunk. that is a waste. hope i helped, wait if you can, if not use protection its absolutely possible to get pregnant the first time.

Answer 31

USE A CONDOM!!!!  if u have s*x but i think ur a little to young and only 4 weeks together thats a little  early!.