How do you know what you REALLY feel?

Question

I am 13 weeks pregnant and not knowing the gender is driving me nuts! I actually really nervous about it! My husband and I have a 3 year old son that is absolutely amazing. this will more then likely be our last baby so I would like a little girl. I just want to experience raising both sexes. I really feel like its a boy but I also feel like maybe I am just setting myself up for the fact that it will probably be a boy. I have even started buying boy stuff. My sister is due with a girl any day now and i cant help but feel a twinge of sadness looking at all her new girly stuff. PLEASE don't get my wrong...i wouldn't give up my son for the world and I will love this baby no matter which gender but I don't think its wrong for wanting to experience both genders.

My question is....to the mothers the "knew" what there babies were...how could you really tell? I just cant tell if its mother intuition or I'm bracing myself for what will probably happen (I rarely get what I want ha ha!)

Answer 1

There's no real way to tell. Until you get an ultrasound, you're relying on instincts. Some mothers instinctively know, so what do your instincts tell you, aside from what you want?

Answer 2

Hi well going from what I experienced I was totally wrong, for some reason I was convinced that I was having a girl, I dont know why as it wasnt really likley I would have a girl first as my mum had 2 boys first and and so did my mother in law, but I thought I just had a feeling, but on the ultrasound it says I am having a boy and I am over the moon and wasnt unhappy at all, as you get what you are given for a reason, It probably unlikely that I will have a girl next time as well,  but as long as my baby is healthy I dont care, Yep a boy and a girl ia what everyone wants but if I was to have another boy, I wouldnt be too fussed.

I wouldnt feel sad if I didnt get a girl, like I didnt feel sad when I found out I was having a boy and I had the feeling it was a going to be a girl.

I dont think its wrong to experiance both genders but this it is wrong to feel sad and unhappy in yourself when you dont get what you want, I was a little angry at my hubby when he told me for years that if I got pregnant he wouldnt care what we had first, but then as soon as I am pregnant he was telling me he would like a boy first, where as I didnt care as long as my baby was healthy as I dont think its fair to say you want one more than the other.  

Answer 3

you sound exactly like my sister she has a 2 year old son already and wasn't sure about what this baby was going to be, but still had an intuition  it was a boy....turned out she was right it is another boy!

Answer 4

well, from what i've read, women's intuition is right 70% of the time. my husband and i both thought we were having a girl, and we were right. i wasn't a 100% sure, but i just couldn't picture it being anything else and whenever i imagined the baby at like 2-3 years old, i always pictured a girl. for some reason, i just didn't think it was going to be boy. maybe it was because my husband and i always said we didn't want girls, only boys before i got pregnant, then as soon as i got pregnant, we both realized we didn't care at all. so i don't know-maybe we were guessing that it was karma coming around and making fools of us, or maybe we both did have some weird sixth sense (lol). i wouldn't start buying clothes yet, but it's possible you're right.

   whatever it is, i'm sure you'll both adore it and wouldn't change the gender for the world!!! i know my baby is going to be such a daddy's (and mommy's) girl! she's already getting spoiled, and she's not even born yet!  

Answer 5

Oh, don't start buying stuff just yet--you'll know soon!  Talk to your doctor.  I'm having my anatomy scan on Thursday and they think they should be able to tell us the s*x of the baby then.  I'll be just 17w2d.  It's so very hard to be patient--this is my one and only child so I'm so anxious and I want to buy stuff every day!  I'm forcing myself to wait just a bit longer.

Answer 6

My intuition was completely wrong, so I don't think those who were right really "knew."  More likely, their intuition just happened to be correct.

Answer 7

I wouldn't buy baby boy things yet silly! :-P

Answer 8

We have a girl and a boy, and a girl on the way. I can understand that you'd want a little girl - but also I know you'd be happy with another son. I thought the baby on the way was a boy for sure. When I was pregnant with our daughter, I was sick all the time but with our son I wasn't. So this time when I wasn't getting sick I assumed she'd be a boy - but I was wrong!

It's a 50/50 chance - I was wrong, and you could be too. Either way, you'll have a new baby to love and care for - boy or girl. I'll bet your son would be thrilled to have a little brother.