How do you know when you're ready for a baby?

Question

My husband and I got married about 1 month ago. We're very much in love. I want a baby and he's like maybe we should wait a little while. We have stable income (we don't make millions of dollars a year but we have stable jobs), a nice home, and we love babies so I don't know why he wants to wait. How do I convince him?

Answer 1

Don't worry about having a baby right away.

I was the same way when I first got married (almost 2 years ago), my husband asked me to wait and so I did.  When it was our 1 year anniversary I realized just how things would have been different if I had given birth or was pregnant on that day.  

My husband took me to Gatlinburg, Tenn. where we stayed 3 days.  Just me and him, no one else.  It was wonderful! We might not have been able to do that though if we had a baby or I was far along in my pregnancy.

Don't get me wrong I still want to have a child (we're thinking of starting at the end of this year!!!), but I'm glad we waited for the time that we have.  We've grown with each other through marriages little bumps and turns, so I know when I start growing my own little bump, things will be just fine.  ^_^

Answer 2

Take the time to enjoy each other and just being married. Once you have a baby it is no longer about the two of you. Maybe he isn't ready to share you yet. Enjoy being you and in love and when you have had time to enjoy each other you will both feel it at the same time and you both will be ready for a baby.

Don't rush those things. Enjoy the little things first and work on building your marriage.

Answer 3

Yeah you are married but that doesnt neccessarily mean that you ready for a baby.

You have to be mentally and financially prepared.

Especially if you don't get the choice of gender that you want, you have to be ready.

Answer 4

You can't.

You don't say how old you are, but unless you are in your late 30's, you  have PLENTY of time.  Get used to being married, and being a family of 2.  Then, when BOTH of you are ready, add to the family.  That might be in 6 months, or 6 years.

Answer 5

Just my opinion and not a fact.  :)

You shouldn't have to convince your husband to have a baby.  Having a baby will change your life in a huge way.  This should be a decision that you make together when you both feel ready, one shouldn't "convince" the other.  Enjoy your freedom now.  Because once you have a baby, you are working for the kid.  LOL

Answer 6

My husband and I were in the same place a few years back, we dated for a few years got married and decided to get pregnant right away. I got off birth control a couple of month before and then had cold feet. Our son was born right before our third wedding anniversary. Let me tell you I'm glad we decided to wait a couple of years and had that time by our selfs. Our son is an amazing baby, no problems at all but it is so much work. I'm glad we took those years to go on vacations together and just be husband and wife, now we do not get any alone time. We can't wait to have another one (but we will wait :) hahaha) Good Luck!

and side note - take this time before the baby to talk to each other how you plan on raising your children, we did and I feel like we have a united front!