How do you know when your having an o****m?

Question

I've had s*x a lot of times before. It feels great but I'm not sure if I've ever had an o****m or what it feels like. Normally I go until it doesn't feel fantastic anymore. Every time I have s*x it feels good and then gets great and then within a few seconds, it doesn't feel all that good anymore. Is THAT an o****m? What does it feel like? it really confuses me. And sometimes it does that after a few minutes. Sometimes it happens after 30 minutes and rarely it does that after an hour. If that isn't an o****m, what is it? AND is it normal for me to be very quiet during s*x? Is it normal for it to feel good when your getting fingered but feel like you kind of have to pee? Getting eaten out doesn't feel all that great to me either and I've tried it with a few different guys so I really don't think they all sucked. I've been sexually active for years but I've always been so afraid to ask anyone these questions so PLEASE don't be judgmental or mean. This really isn't easy for me.

Answer 1

Some women do not o****m when they have s*x. It is easier for some to o****m through clitoral stimulation. Try using s*x toys, lubricant and take more time to get aroused. Also try to o****m before s*x if you havent already...

Answer 2

If you had an o****m you'd definantly know it!!!  Try masturbation, or have you tried that??  Clitoral stimulation works wonders.  Its hard to describe an o****m, other than the really shaky and pleasurable feeling you get.  But explore while you are alone, and I guarantee you when you have an o****m you will know!!!

Answer 3

Well, it is not uncommon to hear ladies not achieve o****m.   I cannot describe what it feels like.  You just know.  Its the most intense sensation you feel throughout the entire time, and then you feel soooo relieved.   Some women can go on...I don't..once I o****m, that's it for me!    

Anyway, in order for you to ever be able to have one, you need to be able to do a few things, and here they are:

Be comfortable in your own skin.  

If you arent comfortable with who you are or how you look, your mind will never really be able to get into the moment.

Be comfortable with the person who is making love to you.

I always say, s*x is best with someone you love.   Both partners can be totally into eachother, and comfortable.  No one has to worry about being embarrassed.  

Learn to talk with your partner.

If your guy is eating you, and it feels better when he does it either slower, faster, up or down, TELL HIM.  How will he know if you dont speak up?

Try different positions, not all women can o****m in all positions.   Some women achieve it missionary, others being on top.

Discover your own body.

Dont be embarrassed to explore your own body, and the things you like.    

Answer 4

I wish I could tell ya

Answer 5

It sounds like you're having very small orgasms.  I've had some small ones that kind of sound like what you're describing.  However, "big" orgasms really knock your socks off - you'll KNOW it was an o****m because it can't be anything else!

It is normal to be very quiet during s*x.  Some people just are.  Some people tend to concentrate on the good feelings quietly instead of getting all loud and crazy.  That's fine.

When you kind of feel like you have to pee during s*x, but it also feels good, that is your Gaffenberg spot ("G spot") being stimulated.  It's a bundle of nerves on the inside of your v****a, on the upper wall, and on the other side of the G spot is your bladder...so when your G spot is being stimulated it also kind of stimulates your bladder, especially if there is some liquid in there.  :)  See if you can have your partner keep going on your G spot - for many women, that leads to a really big o****m.

Not all women enjoy oral s*x.  that's okay, too.  It might not be your thing.  However, are you sure your partner is finding your clitoris?  It sounds to me like you're not receiving much clitoral stimulation.  The clitoris is what creates really good orgasms for most women (although all women are different) so you should be sure you or your partner are stimulating the clitoris for the best results.

If you're not masturbating, there really is no substitute for it.  It's hands-down (ha ha, pardon the pun) the best way for you to figure out your own body and to understand what orgasms feel like, how to achieve them, and how to delay them.

Answer 6

An o****m is similar to an explosion.  Your entire body will tense up and you will shake with pleasure.  It is seriously an amazing experience!  I would suggest you exploring your body.  You need to figure out what feels good to you.  Then you will know what you want a guy to do to you.  There is nothing wrong with exploring your nether regions.  In fact, by masturbating, you may be able to have an o****m and then wow!  And most guys don't know how to go down on a girl unless they have done it A LOT!  I know many guys who aren't good at it.  But I have one now who is absolutely incredible!  So just explore yourself.  Play with your clitoris a bit...that is the easiest thing to get you off without stimulating your g-spot.

So good luck and have fun on your s*x-capade!

Answer 7

IT  feels good youll know its an o****m for sure girl it feels like if your touching the sky jeje like if you wanna cry but at the same time laugh

Answer 8

It can take anywhere from a few seconds to a couple of hours to reach o****m... both of these are unusual but normal, and anything in between is just fine.

Just before o****m, you might have a feeling a bit like you have to pee, but it's not quite the same, and when your o****m first happens, there'll be a very strong (sometimes intense and *powerful*), warm and sometimes tingly feeling that spreads from your clitoris to your v****a and then through your whole lower body. Then very quickly your clitoris, your v****a, your crotch muscles and your butt-hole will squeeze and pulse a few times while that feeling spreads all over you.

During all this, your toes will probably curl, you might feel like you need to hold your breath or like you have to breathe really fast, your body will want to tense up and might jerk or shake or shiver, and you might make some noises (grunts, gasps, groans or cries) that you can't really control. You might "squirt" or "ejaculate" a lot of fluid from your urethra (don't worry, it's not pee). The whole time, it's just about the best feeling there is.

(Everything you "might" feel or do above isn't always going to happen... some orgasms are much less overwhelming than just *very* pleasureable.)

As that feeling becomes more gentle and starts to go away (after maybe 5 to 20 seconds), your whole body will begin to relax, and you might feel sort of like having a nap... or like just lying there and letting your mind drift... or perhaps even like doing it again.

One thing you can do to find out is check out this webpage:

http://www.coolnurse.com/masturbation_ho...

Read the page all the way through, and try some of the things suggested (including the "extras" linked at the bottom). Take your time (it might take a whole afternoon the first time), and just enjoy learning what feels best for you... it's fun. Sooner or later, you'll have an o****m, and they get better each time if you're one of those lucky girls who can have them again and again.

Then you'll know what having one is like, for sure.

Have fun and don't worry. Masturbation is having s*x with the only person you'll ever meet who knows *exactly* what you feel and what you like, even if that changes every second. It's normal and healthy, learning what pleases you sexually is good for you, and when it comes to having s*x with the one you *want*, you'll be able to tell them (or to show them if you like) the things you like best.

Answer 9

Its indescribable.  Trust me you'll know if you have one cuz its just that good.  Its like a million little explosions of ecstasy.