How do you know when your really done having kids ? What kind of feeling do you get ?

Question

I am on my 4th child . My husband says that we will stop having kids when I say i don't want anymore . I'm thinking about getting my tubes tied after this one cause it is like my 1st and 2nd pregnancy was fun but my last one and this one just isn't fun anymore . I would rather skip everything and go straight into labor . I am really wanting to get my tubes tied but scared I will get baby hungrey in 2 years and change my mind thouhg i really don't want to be pregnant again . Why can't they just deliver the baby to your door step :) . Anyway how do you know when your done ? by the way my age is 24 will be 25 in Jan which is when i am due .

Answer 1

We have 4 and had them young, I was 27 when our last was born.  Hubby and I loved raising them all but loved talking about how our kids would be grown and on their own and we would actually still be young enough to enjoy ourselves.  And we are.

Oh and about the time I got baby hungry was the time my first grandson was born ;)

Answer 2

ha! Deliver babies to your door step!!  Well why don't you just take the pill.  And by the way, if we didn't go though this much to have our babies, we won't cherish the moment when they arrive so much.

Answer 3

I would say to just stick with the pill for a while, that way it's not permanent and if youi change your mind in a few years you can always stop taking the pill and try for a baby.

Answer 4

You are very lucky to have 4 angels and a supportive husband. If you can afford to put them all through college then I say stop and smell the roses! I was done after my third. Got my tubes tied and enjoyed my down time. Read a few books and get well. Now I enjoy my babies every moment, although they aren't so little any more. Sometimes when I see babies so sweet passing by, I just smile because they are so beautiful and innocent, but waking up at 3am isn't for me any longer. You have 4 babies to enjoy! Enjoy every moment, you'll never have this time back...  Make happy fun memories! You'd be surprised at the things my kids tell me that they remember. Most of it wasn't going to Disneyland or all the presents they got. It was walking along the beach or walking on a trail near our house. Swimming lessons at the park and having cold melon on a hot day! They definitely get more expensive as they get older! You are young enough to be able to have fun with your kids and watch them grown into amazing human beings with good values and happiness! When your babies are grown you are young enough to be a hip grandma! Don't rush it. You be good to yourself and enjoy your husband and all your babies! You may want to have date night with just you and hubby so you get to have adult time. Be at peace and grateful for all you have! You are blessed!

Answer 5

i know the feeling but don't make this choice all preggers,.. you willprolly regret whatever you choose, It is such a hard choice to make I know but not while your homones are outta wack!

Answer 6

Just use birth control for a few years and if you still feel like you're done then, get your tubes tied.  You can be on birth control for years you know.

Answer 7

Try an IUDit's not permanent

Answer 8

I'm 30 and my 2nd child (boy) is 6 weeks old.  I have a 3-year-old daughter too.  I think I might be done having kids because both my husband and I feel very content, satisfied, and pleased with our family.  However, we aren't going to rule out having children just yet.  We'll wait a few years and make sure we really are done.  I would recommend not getting your tubes tied until about 2 years after you give birth to your 4th child so you don't make a drastic decision while you are full of hormones and with a baby in diapers.  Just use birth control contraceptives until you do get your tubed tied.

Answer 9

I just knew when enough was enough. I want to be a young mom, not having kids into my fifties, like my dad did.

Answer 10

I wish I could help you i wonder the same thing all the time.  I just had my 3rd a yr ago and I don't think that I want to have anymore so I just got the IUD until I know for sure.

Answer 11

i have two friends who both got their tubes tied....one after having 2 kids the other after 3...and you know what they both regretted it....the girl who had her tubes done after 2 sadly had a baby that died of SIDS three months later....very tramatic...and my cousin have her tubes tied after her third one now wishes she would not have done something so permanent...he youngest is now two and she wishes she could have one more....i guess its just a personnel opinion and you will either love it or hate it.....have you thought about MIRENA the five year birth control?....just look into all options first please

Answer 12

You know you are done having children when you and your spouse ae ready.If you dont think you have enough love around then you should have more.If its the pregnancy that you hate,then have you considered adoption?

Answer 13

If your not 100% maybe dont get your tubes tied. Go on birth control for a while. But they can drop babies of at your door, its called adpotion :)