How do you know your ready for children?

Question

How do you know your emotionally ready to try concieving a child? Is it normal to feel excited and eager sometimes aswell as not sure your prepared for your life to change other times?

Answer 1

Honey when you are ready for kids you will have no doubts and you will go for it. I know i did.

Answer 2

you will feel it when the time comes

Answer 3

It's hard to know i'll give you that much. My pregnancy was very unplanned and the father of my baby told me he couldnt help me with this so i would have been on my own. Unlike some who kept there children i didnt. I knew that my baby deserved better than me i had no doubts i could do it but i wasnt ready and i wasnt about to put her life in experiment to see if i could so i placed her with people who could. Unless your actually in that situation you really dont know. But in you know in your heart your ready then go for it

Answer 4

we have 3 lovely children, and may i add none of them planned.

they are now aged ; 12 ,8 ,and 7  and all doing well.

having children is a bit like learning to swim, you`re thrown in at the deep en d and have to do your best : and you will!!

it is very hard work ,  i kid you not, but the rewards  far outway  any other life experience

you also have something unique ,called mothers instinct, i`d love to know how this works as we blokes don`t have it, but believe me ,it`s there. good luck!! you will know when the time is right if you are with the right person.

happy baby making .

tony.d

Answer 5

A large portion of people get pregnant unexpectly that were not ready to be mothers that turn out to be excellent mothers. Nothing can really prepare you. It just is. All the readyness feelings in the world may not be enough. Once you have a child there is no turning back. So you just have to take the dive. You can never imagine what it feels like to be a parent until you acutally are one, it changes your life completely.

Well I think we all fear the unknown, so it's natural to feel like you are not ready and second guess yourself.

Answer 6

You are ready when you have the confidence that you have the fortitude and heart to give it all up for another, your child.  I am a mother of two and they are the two of the greatest people on this planet.  Your job is to guide and be the role model.  You grow together and share experiences.  Prepare yourself to be able to provide a roof, food and health care with unconditional love.  Kids are great, you love them for who they are and how they make the world shine a little bit more.  Take a healthy approach to starting a family.

Answer 7

You are never fully ready.  It is the desire to love and have a child that is important.  Everything else makes room for the child.

Answer 8

I say when you and your boyfriend/husband have a good stable relationship (I guess Jerry and I didn't have that) at least one of you have a good paying job or both of you have a not so good paying job, you have an emergancy care giver you at lease have one car and a good house, and you each like the idea and are planning to LOVE that baby!

Answer 9

when you are over 21(at least)

are married

both have stable careers

own at least 1 car

own your home

atleast one of you hasa degree but you should both have degrees

THEN after all of that, and I mean ALL of that is done then you tlak about it with your husband

Answer 10

Marriage is how you can be sure you have enough support from husband, family, etc. If you aren't married, i wouldn't recommend having some.

Answer 11

If you have to ask this question, you are probably not ready.  You will definately know when you are ready and will not have to post this type of question........not trying to be rude

Answer 12

you know you are ready when you are ready to give up your life.  Meaning ready to stop thinking about yourself and start thinking about another.  You know you are ready when you know you can afford a child responsibly.  You know you are ready when you can spend every waking hour worried about the child and not yourself.  When you don't worry about what is happeneng downtown without you and more about what Sesame Street has on.  You know you are ready when your heart lets you know.

Answer 13

We knew we were ready after living together for 2 years. We'd traveled a lot, and were preparing to get ready to buy a home (had been researching realestate in our area for 3 years when our daughter was born). Were excellent with our finances, and knew that wouldn't be a problem. We just started talking and realizing that there wasn't any reason to wait any longer. We were well on our way, had a meticulously planned path, and were ready to share our life with kids. So we chose to try, and got pregnant first try. Moved 2200 miles at 4 and a half months pregnant, got married, had our daughter. Bought our house when she was 21 months old, with 3 kids total in mind when we bought the home. Having the kids able to have their own bedrooms and space, and a large yard to play were important to us. So we took our time and researched the town, and schools, ect. Decided on our house, on an acre of land 2 miles off the lake, zoned for the best district around. Made the full asking offer, and closed 2 weeks later! Moved in the day of closing. I really don't know how else to explain it, we just started feeling like it was time, we wanted to take that next step and have kids together. We wanted all of the family things, just the daily joys in having kids. We just knew we were ready. As it turns out, we were ready. Being parents comes easy as well as naturally to us. We enjoy it, all of it. People complain about how hard, and expensive, and stressful it is....for us we just don't feel that way. We haven't thus far anyhow. It's everything we wanted and more, and has been a lot easier than we expected. Teething has been the only big stress, now that is a rough time...especially when the baby is getting 2, 3, 4 at once. That makes for a rough week for everyone. My life hasn't changed much since having kids. I never enjoyed "hanging out", or partying ect. So I didn't loose anything there. The only change is that now instead of being home reading, or researching, or budgeting by myself, I now have kids here with me lol. It's really not any different at all, other than of course the interaction with the kids, and family things we do. We were a little worried when I was pregnant with our first(before the big move), just not knowing 100% that what we had spent years planning, would go how it was intended. That just made us focus and work that much harder to get to where we are now though.

Answer 14

It's normal because your life is never the same after you have children.