How do you let go of your boyfriend when you feel like he is your entire life?

Question

I used to be independent and strong but since he has been in my life I feel like I have lost control over myself. All I care about is him and whether he is happy. He now lives with me rent free, I cook him dinner every night, I clean his clothes, and I even pay some of his bills. Saying this now for the first time and admitting it sounds ridiculous to me but somehow I can’t see my life without him. All he really brings to the relationship is love, but is that enough?

Answer 1

Now is the time to find yourself before you get much further down.

I have gotten myself into relationships like this as well.

Remember we set relationships up to be what they become. Somewhere in the beginning of this relationship you became a caregiver instead of a companion and lover, friend etc....

The only way for you to redefine the situation is to sit down with him and talk about this. You will only become more insecure and more bitter towards him and you can change it so get started.

Look at what you were missing in your life when you met him and why things got this way. You can't change what you don't understand.

Maybe you felt like his need made you feel better about yourself for ex.

My best wishes

Answer 2

carl wants your number.  he says he wants true love like this.

Answer 3

A relationship should enhance and add happiness to your life. You have added a small amount of happiness, but you have also added plenty of stress and a financial burden. You boyfriend should not seem like your entire life, he should be a complement to your life. You should be happy without your boyfriend, and even happier when he is around. You should feel like the same strong person you were before you started dating. You say, “All I care about is him and whether he is happy”. You should never feel like this. Your relationship has turned into a one sided affair that is not healthy for you. You need to break it off. Remember, a healthy relationship enhances and enriches your life, it should never create burdens or change who you are.

Answer 4

me and my ex used to be like that... we broke up cuz i was moving to another state and i guess the way she just got rid of me and forgot about me was 15 minutes after that when she said "john i hate you, your dad was right you are worthless you'll never get anywhere in life... and oh yeah, GO F*** YOUR DEAD MOM"  :(

-johnaldmcdonald

Answer 5

the way you make yourself sound, I'd say you are weak and timid.  Good luck in your relationship.

Answer 6

He does need to contribute more, but girls usually complain about not havin enough affection, but now it doesn't seem like it's good enough. You sound like a lovely lady, and you need to make it clear that you need him to help as well, but you should take the consistent love as a good thing.

Now many girls will likely tell you it's not enough, it really is.