How do you let your best friend go, when you have noone else?

Question

I am very attached to my best friend. We have known each other for two years and she has been there for me in my most difficult period. But lately I ma being drained by her.. She is starting to expect too much for me, expecting me to say 'yes' all the time to all her requests.

I want to start focussing on my own happiness now instead of making her and her family happy which I have been doing constantly.

I now want to let her go because she doesnt seem to react kindly to me spending my days off on looking after me and enjoying myself as she would rather me look after her kids or fix her computer.

Am I being unfair.

Answer 1

wow I just went through a similar thing. just let her know how you feel and move on. you are just two different people. And don't be afraid of being alone, because the only person you can depend on is you! You are born alone and you die alone. So make YOU happy!

Answer 2

You need to break away, ive been through exactly the same.

The reason she does things for you is so you feel obliged to give back, shes using you.

You shouldnt do nice things for people and expect things back, drift away from this girl - lifes too short and you have nothing to feel guilty about.

Answer 3

I cant believe that you have trouble making friends as you seem so nice, your friend is one of life's takers and you've realised that she's taken enough from you, it's no friendship if you're not sharing, so get out there and enjoy yourself, I'm sure that you can make more friends easily.

Answer 4

I dont think that you are unfair to your friend. but for me the  best  way is to talk to her and tell what you feel. you can make friends all the time maybe the reason why you dont have friends is HER, you are so under  her spell, try to open your doors to new friends .

Answer 5

hmn..you should talk to her first, about your concerns..listen to what she says...hear her reasons on why she's doing that or acting in a way you cant understand...don't be unfair to her and to yourself.

Answer 6

You are not being unfair.  But I would first tell her your concerns.  If she doesn't see your side, you have to let her go.  Give her the chance to correct her mistakes first.  Or don't.  It's your life, be happy.

Answer 7

This exact same situation happened to my ex-best friend & I.

I had to practically obey to her every 'command' & follow her around like a dog. I had to accompany her for lunch, follow her to tuition & even pay for some of her meals. Each time I'd tell her I had to go off the phone she would find some stupid excuse to talk to me and when she needed to go she would just hang the phone down.

It came to a point where I felt that the BF I had was no longer there for me. I didn't have any friends at that point of time (But she had tons & shared MY secrets with them). So I decided to tell her off one day & just stopped talking to her.

I started hanging out with new people, new faces from my classes and started talking to the quieter ones first for a start. Then I got close to their friends & managed to make more & more friends each day. Needless to say, my ex best friend has got no friend she can confide in now, for they all spread her secrets around class.

What goes around comes around. So don't worry. Let this friend go & make new ones around your neighborhood/school.

Good luck:)