How do you make a decision that you know you will not regret?

Question

How do you stop fearing that a decision you make may lead to a regret. Does it mean you shouldn't decide to do something cause you are afraid you might regret it but at the same time you feel it may be right?

Say for instance, leaving your husband who you love but feel you may not feel the same about him anymore.

Answer 1

Well first and foremost, you have to remember that humans are, by nature, short sighted. You cannot possibly foresee all of the possible consequences of your decisions. Therefore it is paramount that you thoroughly think through big decisions, but understand that the outcome may not be what you thought it would be. Having this view of our nature should lead to a minimization of regret. After all, you did thoroughly think it through to the best of your ability right?

That being said, my father gave me the best advice EVER about making decisions...Say it out loud, and if it sounds stupid, it probably is. If it sounds reasonable, then go with it.

Answer 2

Do what your heart tells you to do! If you are feeling this way, you should NOT be with them. Deep down you and I, and everyone who has read this knows this.

I know it is hard for you because you are in that situation but you need to get out of the marriage.  

Answer 3

It just sounds like you are unsure about making a decision. Its not about regret....yet. When the decision you are about to make is life- altering, there needs to be assurance. You need to KNOW you are making the right decision, with that, it takes time and lots of thought.  

Answer 4

hhmmmmm..well from all the c**p iu been through i let go of myself and my problems...i learned that in life everything isnt about me...it never was....i am tired of feeling sad,angry,regretful becuase i been through teh worse case scenrio and i know the deal.when you been through what you thought would never happened you just...let go..and..ur just happy and much more of a stronger person =)

Answer 5

This is a very tough one and I've read a couple of your posts and it seems like your really hurting and stressed out.  I been there.  I'm still battling, after 14yrs of marriage, as to whether or not the right thing is staying in my marriage for the sake of the committment I made and my two children or being honest with myself and getting out and exploring what else life has to offer me.  I'm with you on this.  I wish we could talk internall here in email or something, because I have a lot to share and I can be "ear" to you to hear you out and let you vent.  

Love is a very funny thing.  You can love someone, but not be "in-love' and no longer want to be married/committed.  I think you are in that position and so am I.