How do you make an ex want you back? ?

Question

please help.

Answer 1

life can be a ***** sometimes, huh... in order to make your ex want you back, there are three major rules that you are required to abide by. first of all, be INDEPENDENT and HAPPY.

if you cant be it, then ACT like it. fake it till you make it. (=

showing him that you are strong enough to mend your heart will make him see that you are confident in yourself. acting independent will help him see that you are somebody who can stand alone and doesn't need an arm to lean on. being independent will make you seem interesting and confident instead of clingy, weak, desperate and unreliable.

scientific research shows that acting happy magically attracts the other human being, because we all have the natural urge to be happy.

after an unfortunate break up, we all get the sudden urge to apologize, let the person know that they are the center of our universe and the key to our survival. we are ready to beg and plead, and even willing to change who we are in order to please and win acceptance form that person. in other words, this is a cry for mercy. a huge no-no. asking for a second chance, makes the person believe that we are desperate, will always be there to chase them, and don't have a life when they're not around. yes, it may be true, but even if it is why let the cat out of the bag and sent our target in the opposite direction?

avoiding making any of the above mistakes is a push to success.

if you want to get your ex back, you need to show him that he without you hes missing out. who wants to be with some depressed, desperate   miserable beggar? that's something that people want to stay away from.

when you're in his view, socialize with as many people as you can. laugh, talk in a happy voice. act like you are a fun person to be with.

try to avoid eye contact, but not to the point  where it becomes obvious. if you have to face him, don't change your facial expression, simply gaze at someone else and keep doing your thing. doing this will make him forget the reason why he dumped you, and see you as a new, fun, mysterious person. basically, it erases bad memories, and lets him know that you're strong.

flirting with other people is another step, but it requires caution. again,

you don't want to be obvious. going out with someone the day after the break up makes it seem as though you're fighting hard to get over him and need someone there because you are unable to  do it yourself. ( the fact that hes everything in your life may be true, but there are certain times to let him know that, this is NOT one of them)

while talking to your girls, talk to the guys too. don't act like you re interested in them, but do the things that single people are allowed to do, such as responding to flirting (flirting back), and making a few dirty jokes. act like this to let your man know that you are very, very available to the other guys and he doesn't have time to fool around.

ignore him, unless hes talking to you, then you just answer in a way that you would to anyone else.

you want to change his image of you (since obviously there was something that caused the breakup) if it was something you did, his mind will be set on the current you.

no matter how hard it may seem to hold back those words and tears, the results will be worth it.

your man will come around...

when you guys are back together, don't start off your new relationship with lectures on what your expectations are, that's how you push him away. instead of EVER going back to the conversation why you broke up in the first place, show him that it was only a tiny mistake and wash it away by being happy, nice, and making up for all the love that would've been given to him in the past.

even though you're going to be all happy and think that since you're back together, nothing can break you apart, you still need to watch what you say and do. BE CONFIDENT. laugh and enjoy your second chance,  without holding grudges on the past.

for me, this lesson wasn't easy to learn. i got it the hard way. but hopefully things work out for you girl.

hope this helped sweetie.

Answer 2

Act happy.

Answer 3

go back to the way you were when you and your ex first met...

happy, outgoing.. s**y.. don't let him see you pout or cry.

Answer 4

It depends on (1) the nature of your break up (What were the issues you fighting over that ended it?)  and (2) the personalities of the two people involved (you and your ex.)

When people break up, it usually stems from a multitude of problems rather than just one.  Think hard on all the things you fought over.  Getting back together will only restore the the old, broken relationship--unless you and your partner agree to identify and work on fixing the troubles that kept it from working the first time.

If you really want your ex back, you need to talk with that person, tell him/her that you want things to be different, want your relationship to work.  Get him/her to open up to you about what he/she would want to change.

And here comes the second part: this is an operation that takes two.  Telling your ex how you feel, listening to them with your whole heart unselfishly, is all you can do.  If your ex is unmoved by your efforts, then nothing can be done.

Best of luck.

"There is no place in this life you have not needed to be. Everything happens for a reason."

"Love is always patient and kind;

it is never jealous;

love is never boastful nor conceited;

it is never rude or selfish;

it does not take offense, neither it is resentful;

love takes no pleasure in other people’s sins,

but delights in the truth;

it is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope

and to endure whatever comes."

Answer 5

well it kinda depends on why ya broke up.. but if it was like NOT a horrible break up where there's hope i would you know befriend them. flirt lightly let them see that im available.. and you know lightweight seduce em but never get physical cuz then they might think  u just want a bootycall. hang out. go out do fun stuff.. do fun things, recreate good times n then he's gonna see why he fell in love in the begining and then that should get them re interested.  

Answer 6

get naked?

Answer 7

well, I think it would really depend on the situation.  But I would start by backing off for a little while, hopefully he'll start to wonder what you're up to.  Then when you do start to be around him more, make sure you look darn hott!  Don't be sad or angry around him.  Laugh with him like a friend, and bring up funny stories of good times the two of you had together, get him to remember what a great relationship it was.  Get him feeling comfortable around you again, and then make sure he sees you with another guy, maybe even the "bad boy" type...he'll probably get really, really jealous, or want to feel macho and "protect you"  You get the idea...Just remember, there is a reason your not together now, do you really want to be abck with this guy?

Answer 8

act happy, and make him jelouse, and get a make over to look totaly hot, get a dog if u dont already have one  

Answer 9

Be your self and if it is meant to be then it will be.  But dont forget one thing,  there are others out there.  And who is to know that you might find someone that is better for you.

GOOD LUCK.

Answer 10

By absolutely disappearing from his life and cutting off all contact... he'll wonder what happened to you and start missing you, and if you broke up with him realize why you did and how he messed up.

But it's an Ex and it's not very likely that it'll work out and you'll end up just hurting yourself. I know I did.  

Answer 11

ok i would tell him that it over and move on and if he Sarto call you names the just say aim sorry say what did you call me the say that was the wrong thing to say and but you meant went to and make him made i hope it work

Answer 12

Umm hon he dumped you for a reason so.....GET OVER IT

Answer 13

Make them c u with sum1 else....or let them know that u r doin great without them. If they see that u r happy they will want 2 be a part of ur life. Then dump their *** for payback!

Answer 14

Tell them that you were having a terrible day (or some other excuse) and you were stupid. Dont blame anything on them and try to make them happy.  

Answer 15

he is your ex for a reason,why do so many woman forget what them  reasons are!

Answer 16

  try to work things out?