How do you make any friends like srsly?

Question

I was always well known in public school since I went to public school from grades pre-k to the beginning of 5th grade then I got homeschooled for family reasons (i'm in 7th grade right now) and we moved one city away(less than a 5 minute drive) I had a myspace and I kept in contact with all of my so-called "friends" but over time I'd message & comment them and they wouldn't comment me back. I would add random people or mainly friend's of my friends and we would start talking you know the usual but then when they ask what school I go to and I tell them it's all like "omg she's homeschooled, i don't wanna talk to her anymore" they're really rude people & it's not like would want to be friends with them if they're going to act like that you know. and if it's not that they judge me & stop talking to me for that reason, all they do is ask a ton of questions about being homeschooled and it's like they don't want to get to know me. because i'm homeschooled i'm a very accepting &

Answer 1

I would go to camps during every vacation, computer camp,dance camp, theater camp, art camp, mountain biking camp, or Join the swim team, if you have one in your area. Try to stay as connected to as diverse a group of kids as possible. My daughter was homeschooled from 5th grade until now (9th). She had been bullied very badly. She went back to school this year in a new town, and fortunately has done pretty well.

If finances are a problem, almost all camps have scholarships, you just have to ask, to see what's available.Seventh graders can be incredibly cruel. It's so sad. Hang in there kid, it get's better. I wish you all the luck in the world. :)  Ukiah

Answer 2

Try getting involved in volunteering-- you can make a lot of friends with people who care about the same things you do.

Answer 3

You have discovered a harsh truth about people. Out of sight usually = out of mind. You won't be invited anymore, because being your friend does not help them gain or keep their popularity in school. The good news is, you haven't really lost anything. Those kind of friends will always run out on you when the going gets tough. Sports and church not being you things is fine. But those are the easiest answers to your social life dilemma. What do you like? X-box is a good place to start, believe it or not. Girls who kick butt at video games are revered by guy gamers and in demand as BFFs for other girl gamers. The more completive (but friendly) you are, the better. Can you ask you local library if you can use their facilities to plan and implement an online gaming club? Some libraries are set up to do that kind of thing. Other towns have pay by the hour online gaming facilities for groups. See if your town or a town nearby has one. Don't stop with gaming or with one circle of friends. Do you dance? Do you fence? Would you like to volunteer for an animal shelter or plan a fundraiser for a local charity? Would you like to intern with a business? Get creative and take control. YSN is right. Don't wait for an invitation. This is a problem and you are the solution. Get active and you may find that some of your old friends come back into the picture. They may just assume as a HSer, you have become boring. Change can scare people. Show them that is not the case. If you do enough, you may find out soon that they are too boring for your tastes.

Answer 4

Why are you waiting on an invitation?

Throw your own party.

Create your own social activities!

What do you like to do?  Create opportunities around that...

A student on here recently started a book club at a Barnes and Nobles... and I remember thinking: This is a kid I would like my son to know.

Don't wait for someone to approach you.

Answer 5

People who ask "a ton of questions about being homeschooled" are showing interest in you. They have probably never known anyone who was homeschooled before and are curious. Answer their questions honestly and nicely, and ask questions about them. Give them the benfit of the doubt: even if they ask something in a way that is a little rude, try to gently correct them, don't just assume they really meant to be mean.

As for your old friends...it's hard to maintain friendships with people you don't see. I lost touch with one of my best friend's from high school when we went to college...even though our colleges were only 30 minutes away from each other and we both had cars! By the time we both moved back in our hometown we hadn't spoken in years and we didn't get back in contact for 2 more years. But then, we slowly got back in touch, and now we hang out all the time.

Invite your old friends over. Say, "I miss you and I can't believe we never see each other anymore". If you aren't being invited to things, you start being the inviter. Many people are shy with frienships--it doesn't mean they don't want to see you.

Answer 6

Have you and your parents tried to find homeschool support groups in your area? That's how a lot of homeschoolers make friends. Other homeschoolers are often available during the school day, there are usually lots of activities going on... I don't understand why you're limiting yourself to your former public school friends and their friends.