How do you make the hurt stop?

Question

Ive been living with my man for 2 years and its been fantastic we have always fought over money and how much time we have together .. the normal stuff. Then i started having problems with him meeting chicks off "adult" websites and having dinner with them and all that and he would always tell me " who do i come home to at night" but it wasent good enough i wanted the man who said he loved me to give his affection and love to just me and he left me for being mean and jealous. was it wrong me disliking him meeting up with ladies from adult friend finder and fling.com? and how do i make it stop hurting i feel like i drove him away..

Answer 1

First you should not feel guilty about driving him away because he was the one that was wrong in the first place for going out to dinner with other females he meets on line that's just wrong on his behalf. The only way you can stop the hurting is to start believing that you didn't drive him away and he was the wrong one, and to try your best to move with your life.  

Answer 2

It was definitely not wrong for you to feel that way. In fact he kind of deserves a slap in the face. That's like going on a date practically especially if he is meeting them off of adult websites. He would have probably cheated on you. It's better without him, trust me. You deserve better and more respect than that. A real man would never do anything like that.  

Answer 3

well that goes to show that he does not love you much a man like that will never do such a thing in a way he is cheating on you sit him down and see what he has to say

Answer 4

so not your fault he was looking to cheat you deserve better dont you

Answer 5

Hi there,

As a man i have to say that is completely unacceptable. You shouldn't have to accept behavior like that which at the very least is bound to make someone hurt, insecure and afraid. I have also been in relationships where the responses of the other can make you feel you are at fault. Get external validation as you are here and realize that that is not ok. I hope that you will be eventually be glad that he is gone before h caused you more misery and psychological damage.  

Answer 6

There isn't any way to stop the hurting you just have to learn to live with it until it heals, I'm sorry. :(

But ask yourself this, if you were meeting men on adultfriendfinder and other websites, would he be okay with the fact that you were "coming home" to him? If he wouldn't then you have your answer. Not wanting your partner to cheat in a monogamous relationship isn't the same thing as driving him away. If he wouldn't have wanted you doing it, he shouldn't have done it either and you aren't wrong for wanting better.  

Answer 7

Stop blaming yourself and be grateful you found out what a lout he really is.

That old line " Who do i come home to at night?" is a lame way of trying to hide the real issue - he cheats.  

And, you know it - he knows you know it - and that's why he left..

This guy isn't 'the one'  and you are better off without him.

You are going to feel the hurt for a while because after 2 years together it will be tough to move on but eventually you will find a man who can give you the love and respect that you deserve.

And you'll be happy.

Answer 8

Clearly he was looking to cheat,

you were right !

if you play online,its just fun,

going out with them is now cheating.

HE WAS CHEATING and you busted him on it !!!

get over him and start fresh.

best of luck !!