How do you make this better? (mom and daughter problem)?

Question

Okay so,

at my camp my little sister was the cutest (she is 3 years younger, i am 13) and everyone would give her so much attention, she is so loud and energetic, and i am both, i am just not obnoxiously energetic and noisy.

Because her personality is so like that, she got all this attention from the older girls. she also won awards for most spirited.. she didn't have to try.

Anyway, I got very jealous and upset and i cried about it and my mom is worried. she tried to talk to me about it and she thought that i wanted to be more like her which i dont! i was just jealous at all the attention that she got. So, my mom wants now for me to be sent to a therapist... which i DONT need at all and I yelled at her and i told her that i didnt need anything.

I love my mom very much and she is the best mommy ever, but she just doesnt understand. She is the youngest child in her family out of three, so she doesnt know what it is like to have a younger (cute) sibling.

How do I explain to my mom and how do I get her to stop getting all mad at me and thinking that i have some sort of problem??????????

Answer 1

'Kay, so this is what you need to do. You need to be an adult and have a talk with your mom. You cannot yell (or else she will get angry) but just try to explain how you feel. If she doesn't understand at first just be patient. Admit that you got jealous, and that you were wrong. Just tell her that you didn't mean to yell at her, but you just felt like she didn't understand. Just tell her how you feel. I'll bet if you give a chance she'll understand. ;) Good luck!

Answer 2

Its understandable that you are a little jealous. I have 2 younger siblings, and it can make you kinda mad when they're better at something. Your sister is like mine, cute, adorable, loved by everyone. And she's energetic. And I understand what you mean. i'm also energetic and outgoing, but I'm not rude about it.

Just talk to your mom. Let her know you don't need a therapist, you just need some time. Explain to her, you were just jealous, and that it's passed.

Also, find an outlet or something you like to do. Whether it be dance, or music, or sports. Something that you can do which will give you confidence in yourself. I'm not saying you have low self-esteem, but everyone loves to feel confident, or more confident about their abilities. Good Luck!

Answer 3

i know how you feel. To be honest though i suggest just going to the theripist, if your mom is h**l bent on sending you you dont really have a choice, becasue she thinks you need to go BUT if you go and talk to the theripist and explain it striaght out you just feel left out becasue of all the attention your sister gets and kindly ask the theripist to explain that to your mom becasue sometimes adults dont listen to their children but will listen to a doctor of some degree better. besides it wouldnt hurt to explain to another person how you feel, it might make you feel better

Answer 4

Lol. Well, I can kind of relate to you here.

I haven't got a younger cuter sibling, but I have got a cute older brother ( well all the girls seem to think he's cute lol )

He's a boxer and the amount of attention he gets because of it is unbelievable. Although, I have to admit, he is good !

He's done so well in life and achieved so much, where-as I haven't. Basically, he's the total opposite of me.

Now his girlfriend's pregnant so he's getting even more attention. Everyone, including my friends are obsessed with him. Even my boyfriend idolizes him, so I know how it feels to feel left out.

At the end of the day, you have just got to turn it into a positive thing.

I just think that he's my brother, he's worked hard to achieve all that and to be honest, he deserves it all. I'm happy for him. Seeing him happy makes me happy, why would I want to take that away from him ? I admit, in the past, I have felt jealous of him, but he's given me no reason to. He's always made the effort to get on with me and always has time for me.

Perhaps you could make an effort to spend time with your little sister. A bit of bonding time. If your mum sees you 2 getting on so well, she might drop the whole counselor thing. You could even say that you were PMSing that day.

Answer 5

go to the terapist and tell him this

he can set up a session with both of you where he mediates and helps you communicate with your mom

problem solved

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