How do you move your child(who's 3yrs old)from grandparents home?

Question

To a new home without grandparents.I just moved out about a week ago from my parents house and I want my son to live with me. He has only stayed with me one night. He is very attached to my parents. I don't want him sad when he is with me.He says he misses them. There is very little discipline with them(grandparents)so when he stays the night with me(his mom,with a lot of discipline)he wants to go back to their house. He ask for junk food all day long. It's very hard to feed him in the morning, at lunch(not so hard), and dinner.When he is with me, I don't give him what he wants(all the time) and I don't give him junk food all day. What do I do? What can I do?

Answer 1

Maybe you could have him stay with you only every other night, or just two nights a week, and slowly increase the time he is at your house.  Ask your parents if they could cut back on the junk food (easier said than done, right?)

Invite your parents to come over to your house... that way he can see that he will still see them.  

He will adapt.  Try not to feel guilty. You're doing what's best for him, what's best for you, and what is best for your family.

Hang in there!

Answer 2

Take him home and tell him that this is your new house.  Don't take him to the grandparents for a few days, so he can get used to not being with them all of the time.  Kids are resilient, he will get used to it.

Answer 3

You are just going to have to tough it out. Make sure he sees his grandparents but arrange for the visits to be at your home for a while. Establish a routine as soon as possible. Listen to his complaints. Explain that you know he misses them but you are his mother, you love him, and the two of you need to be a family. Don not get angry and don't make him feel guilty. This is a tremendous change for such a young child. The worst thing you could do would be to cut off contact. However, make sure your parents understand that their job is to let him know that they think this is the right thing for him. If they start trying to make you feel guilty and your child feel even more upset you may have to rethink visitation.

Answer 4

kids love to play and have fun. If you are a stay at home mom, then you are better placed.just play a lot with him, try engaging him in the activities that he loves like crafts, coloring activities, water games etc. This will develop a bond between you and the kid and slowly he will start respecting and obeying to the food habits that u are insisting. I suggest not to force  him right now with discipline, this will develop hatred towards you.

I am speaking this with experience.My daughter stayed with my mom for 3 years and now she is with me happily without missing my parents.

Key point: just make him understand thy at you love him a lot in every action thats it.

all the best