How do you not give your child negative attention?

Question

I need some major help! I have four kids who are all normally good kids. However my four year old, who turns five in a month, has a very bad habit. He yells and throws tantrums all of the time. The other children ofcourse will do this occasionally but I feel they are in good control of their feelings. He yells about everything and does this everywhere. I have tried everything and feel like he does it just for attention. When I give him positive attention he seems to act out even more afterwards. Please help what can I do to stop giving him the negative attention he seems to be after? I feel I give him a lot of positive attention even doing things just me and him. Anyone have any ideas?

Answer 1

there is a great method that helps with this. its called 1,2, 3 magic

look it up on google it'll give tons of information on how it works. and you can even order the dvd

it works wonders i do this with my preschoolers as i'm a preschool teacher

after the first 3 or 4 trys he'll learn that this negative attention is not getting him anywhere.

i'm sorry i cant give you the link though my internet is messing up

good luck=]

Answer 2

Well, when he throws a tantrum, DO NOT pay him any attention. Walk away and make it seem that its not bothering you.

But when he is acting in good behavior , make sure you recognize that and give him the positive attention he is seeking for.

No need to give negative attention when they are throwing tantrums, just walk away and make them think it isn't bothering you.

Answer 3

If he has a tantrum just bring him to his room, tell him that when he's calm he can come back and play, and leave.  Don't get mad; don't yell; don't overreact.  Just send him to be by himself till he's calm (of course after you're sure he's not injured or anything).  If he comes back out and isn't calm; calmly put him back again.  If he comes back calm, congratulate him for calming down and move on.  

If you're out of the house, put him in the car and strap him in his seat (and pull out a book or something so you can at least pretend that you're not paying attention).

When he's not in the middle of a tantrum, on a day when things are going well, talk to him about speaking in a strong, firm, polite voice to solve problems.  Model it, praise the other kids when they do it (and their friends), and praise your son when he does it, as well.  Then when he first starts melting down, you can remind him to use his strong, polite voice to solve the problem.

Answer 4

Call Supernanny lol

hope i helped

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