How do you not worry about what other people think about you?

Question

Now that I'm back in school, my last semester in college, I tend to over analyze things and worry about what other people think of me. When the professor gives out his lecture and points to certain students asking them questions, but never ask me anything, I tend to over analyze that. I think to myself, "do I look stupid?" , "do I not look business material?" , "do I not fit into this class room?" I'm a pretty quiet shy person in class, so it's hard for me to socialize, so I normally sit quiet. I tend to wonder why no one ever asks me anything or try's to start conversations with me. Am I dorky looking? Am I too skinny looking? Do I look like a troll or a social outcast? I don't know what to think. I try not to think too much into things, but I can't help it. I don't know why I'm like this. Is it normal to over analyze things and worry about what other people think of you? Sometimes I think there's something wrong with me or something wrong with the way I look. I really don't know what to think now.

Answer 1

1. know yourself, know your strenght and weakness. Know your physical and mental functionality.

2. Accept what you have known about you.

Truth will set you free. won't care about others but self. will become fearless. will become wiser and will know how to handle people. Proud of yourself of having such wisdom.

Start now, time is essential. Educate yourself of yourself.

Your self-image isn't connectedly tight to reality-the reason of all your worries

Answer 2

It is normal to feel that way. Sometimes it's just a phase. My advice is try to make yourself known in class. Participate and show the professor that you know what your doing. Also feeling that way is like a type of paranoia. Try not to think about those things and focus on what makes you feel good about yourself. Buy a new shirt or get a new hairstyle or something. Anything that will make you feel more confident and good about yourself. :)

Answer 3

It's all a balance. You MUST be confident in yourself, but not be arrogant or a show-off. Work out, study hard, and be nice. Look presentable. No one will ever turn you down if you look decent and have a decent personality. Everyone has the potential to do that.

Also, everyone has different taste. Sometimes teachers pick favorites because they can't teach. Sometimes popular people ignore you because they're ignorant snobs. Know that you're doing good, and proving it to yourself is ALL the proof you'll ever need. Show them by action that you CAN answer the difficult questions, that you CAN build up muscle or lose weight, that you're in control of yourself and no one can control you (but advice is nice once in a while).

Most of all, don't be arrogant, and don't become society's slave. You can work for the betterment of mankind but that doesn't mean you're at the beck and call of every person on the planet. If someone doesn't like you, try to change it. Take an acting class to build up speech skills. Not doing something about it can sometimes be worse than doing it wrong. Date someone. Walk up to a classmate you don't know and say, "Hey, do you think our class is interesting, hard, etc.? Rejection and failure are always just another opportunity to start over and learn from your mistakes. You can do it, just remember people just may not realize or want to acknowledge your potential at first, but if you think positive and do your best you'll get where you want to be eventually.  

Answer 4

I know this feeling, all to well. I've dealt with it brutally for many years. The fact of the matter is, yes, you can drastically over analyze the situation. And this is a very dangerous thing to do. If you begin to believe things are happening or being said about you. It will, in time, become a reality. Of course only in your head.

You have to understand, it's like when your a child, or even an adult that is afraid of spider. Your mom or dad may say "he's more afraid of you then you are of him" and they are absolutely right. That spider has no idea what you are or what you represent. His role is to be frightened.

This is similar to many people in groups where everyone is strangers. They tend to distance themselves and disassociate. This doesn't mean they dislike you. It's that people don't really engage in conversation or even a polite "hello" because of fear issues.

You might see two new comers talking amongst themselves, and this is most likely because one of them spoke up to the other in one way or another and this broke down that security wall, they both were able to see eye to eye and no longer fear the unknown.

Don't let the unknown turn you into an over imaginative, over analyzing mute that walks in and says nothing. It only hurts yourself. You just have to realize that life isn't always how it appears. Test your boundaries, you'll see what I mean.

Try not to downsize yourself so much, you have to take comfort in yourself some how. It's the only way to survive.

Answer 5

If you care so much about what others say about you, you will continue to fool yourself and lie to them.

If you listen to that flattery with complete attention, neither liking nor disliking, listen to it completely, wholly, then an image is not formed, you do not call him your friend, and alternatively, the person who insults you, you do not call him your enemy.

Even as a great rock is not shaken by the wind, the wise person is not shaken by praise or blame.