How do you overcome a miscarriage at the age of 15 ?

Question

A few weeks ago, I suffered a miscarriage. I was in a lesson in school, when I started sufferig from period pains, only on a much higher scale. I began bleeding heavily, and as some classmates were aware of my pregnancy, some were extremely worried. As, I knew of women having periods during pregnancy, I ignored it. The pain was worsening, but I chose to stay quiet in order to keep my pregnancy a secret. After 4 days of bleeding, the minimising pain (which were later explained to be contractions) became much worse and I screamed for help. I felt my baby push itslelf out of me and sat and looked at a dead foetus. The hospital tried to be very kind, but I was constantly disturbed for injections, drips and medications as my reaction to my miscarriage was extreme. I try my best to put on a brave face, but when I see babies, I feel a twinge in my heart at what could have been. My friends don't understand what I'm going through. Are there any methods to overcome my loss ?

Answer 1

If might help if you could talk to other people who also suffered a miscarriage.  A miscarriage is a death.  A death of a baby and the death of the dreams who were already having about being a mom.  Young as you are I am sure you were already planning a nursey and baby clothes and hugging and loving your baby, and you need to talk to other people who have gone through the same thing

Answer 2

im so sorry everything will be fine n if you want a child try again...god has a plan for everything and everyone!!

Answer 3

I think things happen for a reason, Your 15 and most likely wouldn't be able to take very good care of a baby. You are just a child your self.  Your baby is in God's hands.  I hope this is a lesson to you, and something that you can learn from.  Your too young to have a child. finish school. Do something with your life, fall in love and get married and then have a baby.

Answer 4

I understand that this is a emotional time but YOUR 15 AND YOU GOT PREGNANT! You shouldn't have gotten pregnant in the first place. Your life would have been absolutely ruined you would have lost all your friends and freedom. Move on and wait to have kids when your ready.

Answer 5

Okay, first of all, i am sure that we are all sorry for your loss. only time will heal the pain but it will heal.  Second, WHAT ARE YOU DOING FIFTEEN AND PREGNANT. WHERE ARE YOUR PARENTS.  find a support group for other women that have or have overcome the same problem. the sure thing is people with similar problems even if they end up a little older than you.  You are awful young to have gone thru such a tramatic experience already.  I went thru mine at 22.  Time has healed the terrible pain but sometimes it still hurts to think of the little girl i lost, especially when I see how beautiful her sister is now years later.

Answer 6

Don't listen to all the people who said you shouldnt be having a baby. I'm 15 and pregnant. If you need someone to talk to you can email me. Try talking to a counselor or if you know someone who has been through the same thing(or similar) they may be able to help you. It will take some time to get over but in the end you'll be fine. Your baby is with God and she'll always be with you.

Answer 7

Think of it as a blessing in disguise.

were you really ready to have the baby?

Were you trying to conceive, or was it an accident?

Answer 8

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately there isn't much you can do but grieve. Maybe if you could take your baby home and bury him/her in your garden, plant some beautiful flowers and say goodbye properly. If you cannot have access to the baby you can still have some kind of service dedicated to your baby, either in private or with whoever knew about your pregnancy.

Answer 9

You never stated how far along you were and why in the h**l would you want to have unprotected s*x in the first place?To have someone LOVE YOU? You kids have no idea what parenting involves.You think its all about cute cuddly babies and OH,I WANT ONE FOR MYSELF....lol! I am sorry you are in pain but your young and have your WHOLE life ahead of you.If yo were my daughter you would of been on the SHOT!

Answer 10

I am so sorry for your pain. I just had a miscarriage a few days ago, too. It's been an emotional roller coaster. Please read the book of John in the Bible to find some peace. God bless.

Answer 11

Nothing can really help the fact that you lost your child. In time you can come to terms with the fact that you child was lost but it will still always be there. You must try to understand that miscarriages are something the bodies does on its own and there was no way you could have prevented it or dont anything about it. There is a greater plan and as hard as it might be your child wasnt part of that but that doesnt mean you can't keep it in your heart and love it always!

Be safe,and dont try to replace you child by getting pregnant again or anything because that wont help. Focus on your life right now and whenit is tim eyou'll have your darling baby back.

Answer 12

I am very sorry for this painful experience.  I am sure there must be some type of grieving programs to help you in your area.  

You are very young to have to go through this.  I am sure when you get muchhhhhhhhh older and decide to have a family, I pray that you will be blessed.  

Maybe in some way someone , somewhere knew that this was something that was way too much for you to handle now.  Your body just wasn't ready at this age.  You have time on your side to heal.  Good luck