How do you persuade your freakin' parent?

Question

Okay. My mom is SOOO strict that she won't let me wear ANY-seriously- ANY clothes. She picks them out for me!!! I'm going to be in 8th grade next year and I want to be able to wear clothes and be popular and all that stuff. And trust me, talking won't do. I want to wear Abercrombie layered tank top stuff TOO!!!!! I NEED FREEDOM! She's always like " It's hot outside and don't layer your clothing!" OR " Mm.... why not wear this?" and pick out horrible jackets or something! That's why this year, I was considered like... kinda nerdy(cuz I'm pretty smart but I have LOTS of fiends) Help and don't tell me that it's my life and move out or talk to this with your dad or something.

Answer 1

Ok I used to have the SAME probelm!  So I started babysitting and earning money and I would buy my own clothes that I liked....and I would wear them ALOT!  Eventually my mom got the clue and eased up on the shopping and only her picking out my clothes thing.  Occasionally I (before the babysitting) I would pick out an outfit that I knew that she would like that I could pick apart that I could layer or make it look good with something else.  (like a jean skirt and a tank top with a little blazer or something....then I would wear the skirt with a different top and layer the tank top with something else and the jackets would rarely get worn lol).  The trick (if you can not babysit) it being creative when shopping with your mom.  Good luck!

Answer 2

Okay, for the people who say get a job and buy your own clothes and your mom will have nothing to say about it?  Nope.  Mom's house, mom's rules.  Until you are grown and on your own, Mom can dictate that you dress appropriately.

So, I think that you should get some catalogs together beforehand, and ask mom to sit down and really discuss what the two of you do and do not like.  Ask her if the two of you can agree to each have equal veto power, and you will learn to compromise with one another.  You show her what you would like, and she has the option to say no, and explain why.  She can show you what she likes, and you have the same option.  Keep in mind, if you're bratty with your responses, you get nowhere with mom.  Tell her in a respectful way why you don't like what she has picked, but find something comparable that you may like.

Personally, I can understand why your mom doesn't want to spend a lot of money for clothes from Abercrombie and Fitch...they have holes and  look shabby--like they were picked from the bargain bin at a thrift store.  

Answer 3

ok, tell your mom everything you wrote. im sure she'll understand. maybe she thinks you're still kinda young.

Answer 4

well whatever is in your closet you should be able to wear and wear it however you want it...you mom should understand you are old enough to dress yourself, and tell her thanks for the opinions mom but im ok thanks...

If you are talking about shopping with your mom, if its her money she has a say in it, and spending 40 bucks on an abercrombie shirt makes no sence to me, get a job, pay for your own clothes and she cant say nothing.

Answer 5

My mom is the exact same way. Then she gets upset when I don't want to wear whatever she picks out. I just need to keep reminding her that I'm old enough to dress myself! It also helps if you buy some of your own clothes, like go shopping with one of your friends to get an opinion from them. If you bought them then they are YOURS, you should have some more say in them. Also, try to compromise. If she doesn't want you in really short shorts then get bermuda shorts instead, for example. I know you said talking won't do, but the best way is just to sit her down and say, "Mom, I know you care about me, but I am getting older and really need to dress MYSELF." Don't say how "everyone else" wears the clothes you want, or that people think you are nerdy because of the clothes you wear. Trust me, she won't want to hear that you want to wear certain clothes because of what other people think. The best way to reason with parents is through communication and compromise. Good luck!

Answer 6

try talking to your mom and asking her if you can pick out an outfit and have it ok-ed by her, remembering that you're a growing girl and she bought you the clothes. but tell her that you would like to decide how you'd like to wear them. in what style.  just make sure she knows you value her opinion and you'd like more freedom in choosing your own outfits from clothes she's already bought for you. with her approval and possibly some negotiating on your and her part.

good luck

Answer 7

I say go buy your own clothes or ask her for money to buy clothes and do it yourself. Tell her that you have a different style then her and that you would like to start wearing that style. You should go buy some of those clothes on your own! Go make a statement to your mom!

Answer 8

just say no and tell her shes dumb and has no style and she'll feel embarrassed and not up to date with modern styles and she'll feel old and worthless and then she'll be too depressed to tell you what to wear.

well, just kidding (kind of) but you can learn to play on your parents emotions more if you really want to control parents. trust me. my parents are really cool and leanient, but that doesnt mean i cant know how to persuade them into doing the few things they wont let me or my sister do.

on a nicer note, you could make your mom take you shopping and then you can only buy the clothes you want to wear, and you can both agree on something. dont let her trick you into buying something ugly though

Answer 9

Get money from dad to go shopping with. Keep the cloths at your friends house who lives near by. Go to school early and stop off at your friends house to get dressed. :)

Buy the cloths you like with dad's money or your own if you can ... maybe get a babysitting job. Second ...pick the cloths you want to wear the night before and keep them in a gym bag or something. When you get to school throw them on and take off whatever the h**l your mom who hasn't got a clue about not having a clue dressed you in.

3rd if you wake up earlier then your mom and dress quickly then talk a lot so she can't say anything and run out the door as fast as possible ... you can get the last word and wear what you want.

4th when shopping with your mom or dad pick out one thing that you like which is cool and one thing that is so extreamly over the top that she will never buy for you and see if she decides to buy the one your really want :).

Amp up the energy you place on being annoying and over opinionated and you might wear her down or cause her to have a nervous breakdown ...she's in a little white room and your wearing what you want at school ... it's a win win situation if you ask me :)

Answer 10

ok  my mom did the same thing. what i would do if i were you make shure your covered if you know what i mean, dont ask her opinon on your out fit, when you go shoping with your mom if shes compering cloths with you, pick out something bad that will show alot of your body of then put the top you really want next to it and sudenley the top you want is not a bad choice,remind your mom that your growing up not like mom  im 14 i dont need you to dress me but like do you relize that in 4 years ill be in 12th grade. or talk about driving. or you can brake it to your mom niceley. sooner or later your mom will relize that your growing up.

wish yha luck <3

Answer 11

who cares what u wear. its the personalty so who cares what u wear. just be yourself and grow the f- up.

Answer 12

ummm......grow up?.........take the clothes you want with you and change when you get there....but if you're gonna wanna wear crazy ****....why dont you go all out and wear the CRAZIEST stuff....top EVERYONE

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