One of my bridesmaids used to date one of the groomsmen. Needless to say, it ended pretty ugly. Regardless, they can still be in the same room together without causing any problems (for short periods of time).
BUT, my BM has a new guy she's been seeing for almost a year. My fiance and I and my other bridesmaids do not like her new boyfriend for various reasons (the way he treats her, mostly), but we are nice to him and get along for her sake.
Thinking that everyone had moved beyond the whole situation, we all went out one night and the GM and the BM and her new bf were all invited. Needless to say, that night also ended ugly. Leading us to the conlcusion that, NO, we cannot all hang out together.
So, obviously we want the GM and the BM to bother be at (and IN!) the wedding. I know them both well, and I think that with just the two of them, things would be civil, if for nothing else the sake of the wedding. But if you throw the boyfriend in the mix, I'm thinking that there will be fireworks at the reception, if ya know what I mean.
The GM is one of my fiance's oldest friends, and obviously means more to us than the boyfriend does. Then again, I don't want to hurt my BM's feelings. She knows that none of us like her boyfriend, but like I said, we are adults and tolerate him for her sake. Regardless of the situation, I'd be happier if he wasn't at the wedding at all just because he's such a jerk!
So how do I politely tell her that he cannot come? I know she'll just say, "No, no, things will be fine. We won't start anything with <the GM>" but thats what they said at the last gathering, too. How can I firmly tell her that he cannot come, period. Or tell me, is this even the right thing to do?
PS - I know how juvenile this all sounds. I wish everyone could just be adults, but obviously they can't :(
Thanks a lot in advance for your answers :)
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