How do you politley tell your friend she needs to shower?

Question

I have a very close friend who will often come over to my house and smell as if she has not taken a shower in a week. I don't want to hurt her feelings, but I just can't stand it anymore. What can i say?? help me out!

Answer 1

maybe she has a gland problem. just say do you smell that? then when they say no. tell them that they need to check there shoes for dog poo. then when they say nop none there tell them that they smell. yes it will hurt there fealings but they need to know.

Answer 2

hey buddy,  i want to present you some chicks but let's go swim first....

Answer 3

I would sit her down and say "what I am about to tell you is not an easy thing to talk about, but I feel that it is my responsibility as your friend to tell you this, and I know that you would rather hear it from me than anyone else."  Then say, " you know that we live in a society that places high values on clothes, appearance, looks, etc.  And included in with that is something that we all take for granted, hygiene. Now ___ (insert name), like I said there is no easy way for me to say this, but I am saying it with love and my goal is not to offend you........(take a dramatic pause) you have a distinguish odor.  I dont know what you have been consuming, but there is a pungent odor that is seeping through your pores, and I suggest that you monitor your food intake because something may not agree with your system and shower at least once or twice daily to see if it helps."

If you blame a food or something, then she may not be as offended. Tell her that it is a known fact that some things we eat, or medicine we take is excreted through the skin.

Answer 4

Tell her the same thing you told us but pretend it's another friend and ask her what she will do

Answer 5

I don't know if this will work, but perhaps you can plan an outing. Say something like, we're going to this such and such place, we need to be our best. I'll go hop up in the shower, and I'm finished you can go as well. Don't worry I purchased extra deoderint.

Answer 6

i don't think there's really a polite way - however you say it, her feelings will be hurt. so soften the blow with nonchalance. when she comes over, pause in the middle of a conversation and ask if she smells something 'strange'. sniff around then stop when you get near her then shrug and say 'nevermind, its probably nothing.' she'll get the hint. if all else fails, get another friend (someone she doesn't know and is quite obnoxious) and let her say it out loud. she'll be offended but at least you'll be able to breathe easier.

Answer 7

find somebody whos brutally honest and has no regard for other peoples feelings and have them meet her. and when she asks you if its true just say "do you want the truth or what you want to hear?"

this way youll say yes without actually saying yes

Answer 8

there is not real polite way to tell someone they smell other than out right.  

Answer 9

No magic words are gonna sound grand here, honest is the best bet,

" Hey you, look between me and you theres a smell coming from you, and i dont want you to be in a situation where people make you feel bad about this, so let's take care of this, alright?"

but dont harshly throw it at them! give an understanding smile and whatever you do dont laugh at them....

i dont know when i smell i like to be told.....

Answer 10

Look her straight in the face and smile. Then say:

I'm sorry, [name], I think we're close enough as friends for me to bring this up and I should have asked you before. Why is it that sometimes you don't smell very nice when you visit me? What do you think could cause your body odor?

What comes next depends on her reaction, and there's no going back. If she says she has no idea, then go into the regular shower/deodorant/clean clothes/eating habits/possible medical problem issues.

Answer 11

Well, tell her you bought a new shampoo and shower foam and you were wondering if it'll actually smell nice on her because if it smells nice on her, you would use it. So then trick her into bathing! ((: Tell her the actual smell and the smell that lingers on the body after the shower is actually different, so she has got to try it out for you.