How do you "dump" i friend without being a *****?

Question

ive had a friend for over a year and weve always had our differances but i really think i cant handle being her friend any more but she thinks that we are best friends so i dont really want to hurt her feelings. how do i break it to her gently?

Answer 1

There really is no way to break it down without hurting her feelings sweetheart. I'm sorry to say that but its true. You lying to her will make you a mean and hurtful person too. I think you should sit her down and start by saying "Can i be honest with you?" Lay it out nice and slow and as calm as you can. Start with , I dont think our relationship as friends is going to work...then explain you feelings in DETAIL!!! and make sure she knows and gets that what shes doing isnt ok and that your not going to stand for it. If shes a real friend she'll take the advice change and realize what she's doing wrong. Please do email me if you need more help with this. Try not to avoid it or shell continue to mess over you. And running away from her and the issue makes it all worse. Striaght forwardness will give a good touch to your personality and will make it easier if anything like this happens again.

Answer 2

make excuses.. that is the simplest answer you would really run for..

Answer 3

Get a friend you trust to be a mediator between you both.  You ask the friend to tell your other friend that you think she's not being a good friend and you want to end the friendship...if she takes it hard then oh well!  But its also a good way for her to get her side of the story across aswell. (her prespective)  Your friend can then relay back to you what she has said.  But make it clear that the girl your trying to ditch is told that the friend relaying your message to her was asked to do it,  and wasn't talking to her behind your back!

Answer 4

thats a toughie. you can ignore her but if you live in the same town it'll be kinda hard. gradually stop corresponding with her until 1 day...no more