So, how does one "let go" of the past? I mean, the events that happened to us over the years have shaped us into who we are today, so how can you just "drop it"? Say your father spends your entire childhood telling you how stupid and ugly and worthless you are; and after you grow up, he mellows with age and becomes a 'nice guy' and expects you to just forget the past and "let it go". How on earth do you do that?? I'll be the first to admit, I hold grudges FOREVER. But come on. A father is mean to his daughter, or is distant and uncaring, so her entire adulthood is shaped by this. She dates uncaring, unavailable, distant men in the hopes of "making" them love her. So how do you just "let go" of something that's made you who you are today? And how do you forgive someone who's been mean to you your whole life? It's like letting them 'get away with it' and suffer no consequence for their actions. What do you think? P.S. A note to the religious folk. Spare me the preaching. You may believe whatever you like, but please don't tell me to ask your god for forgiveness or what not. Thank you.
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