How do you respond to people saying "You're pregnant?? You'll ruin your life" comments?

Question

Please note I am NOT pregnant. But when I was a few yrs ago, a few people said this and suggested abortion...including the very people that had kids themselves younger than I was, or people that had earlier admitted they'd keep the kid if they themselves got pregnant! I'd worked very hard to accomplish financial stability for the first time in my life, so it hurt my feelings a ten-fold and made me feel as if all my efforts meant diddly squat. Then a year later when I made even MORE progress towards stability, a harmless April fools joke led to a rumor that myself and another girl were pregnant, and an acquaintence told me the very same thing: "Why are you happy about being pregnant?? You'll ruin your life!" Since then, a few other acquaintences(mostly guys) made a casual cheap jab that they could never imagine me having kids or being a parent.

How can I put these people in their place and stop this from happening?? It's hurtful...esp since so many of them have kids of their own.

Answer 1

Sorry this would make more sense if you were a little girl like juno.  But you are a grown woman.  Why do you even care what rumors people say about you?  Sorry to be mean but you need to grow up and stop worrying about what others have to say.  Especially guys who talk trash who cares.  They have no idea what they are talking about.  So why not just keep your mouth shut and let them be the ignorant ones.

Answer 2

I think a lot of people who say that, don't really mean it. I take it as a joke and honestly I don't care. I'm going on 20 with my first child who is due in 3 weeks, and also will be junior this upcoming August.

People tell me my life is ruin, this is your prime, well s***w you! I'm expecting a beautiful little girl and I don't see her as a down fall, If anything she will better my life and keep me more focus on the goals that I WILL achieve.

Having children comes with responsibility, sacrifices, difficult decision making but at the end of the day I know my daughter will make me proud just as I have made my parents and at the end it all becomes a life process that was worth it.

Answer 3

tell them that's not cool and they need to think about what they say before they say it, because that's incredibly inconsiderate and ignorant. i'm sure that some of them were just trying to prevent you from making your life a little bit harder, but they are in no place to try and tell you what to do when they have kids.

next time they try saying things like this to you, ask why they have kids and think it's acceptable to say such hurtful things to you.

hang in there :)

Answer 4

Just say "so does that mean you ruined someones life when you were born?" or better yet just ignore them. Someone actually told us we were to young and not in a good position to have a baby, right after they borrowed 300 dollars from us!

Answer 5

Say "good thing it's MY life and not yours."  

End of discussion.

Answer 6

i would just ignore them as i did i was 18 when i got pregnant and everyone around me saw it as a mistake i did not see it that way yes i was young and not ready but i would have made it and raised my little boy to the best of my ability. but at 12 weeks i miscarried and was devistated and everyone around me seemed to be comforting but they saw it as a good thing. it still hurts looking back people i cared about looking at this as a mistake but i had to put it in the past and not let it get to me.