My husband likes to blame me for anything that's not going well in his life. If he's not doing well in his courses, it's my fault. If he cannot find a job, it's because I haven't found him one.
He says I'm a very selfish and illogical human being. Meanwhile, I have fully supported our family financially all along (at first, he was a student and now he's looking for a job). I also do pretty much all of the housework and the overwhelming majority of the childcare.
He just sits around on the computer feeling sorry for himself and blaming me for all his problems. Nothing I do is good enough. I apply for jobs for him and I talk to everyone I know about getting him a job (networking). He still says I'm selfish and not doing enough to help him.
How can he say I only care about myself when I spend literally every waking moment either working to provide for the family, cooking, cleaning or watching the kid? Does that even make sense? Which part of that is selfish?
I'm so fed up. Here I thought I was being the ideal wife and mother, and apparently all this time he's been thinking I'm selfish and useless. How do you satisfy someone who is bent on using you as a scapegoat for all their problems??
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