How do you solve a problem with a teammate?

Question

Theres is this girl on my varsity volleyball team who is a sophmore, and im a senior. she thinks she owns the team and treats every one else like c**p. When something goes wrong she blames it on everyone else, even though it's her fault. Every one one the team is getting pretty much fed up with it, but we dont want to tell her. What should i do?

Answer 1

Beatings. Seriously though.  The only suggestions I have are from my time in the Army and they were not nice to say the least. Usually it involved a blanket and several bars of soap in socks.

Answer 2

tell her. in a nice way....and invite her for coffee and ice-cream there after. the rest is easy. get talking not arguing and accusing. that solves the issue.

Answer 3

You all need to talk to your coach.  And honey, when you get into college, it doesn't get any better.  You're going to be in classes that require group work, and you're going to have that know it all jerk every time!  Just talk to your coach and let her know that she's not being a team player, and is dragging everyone down.  It's the coach's responsiblity after that.  If the coach does nothing, then the team or team captain will need to confront her.  If all else fails, break her legs so she can't play anymore... j/k

Answer 4

i know u don't want to tell her but u got to, do that or talk to your coach and tell um what she is doing

Answer 5

Even though you may not want to tell her, you need to or the problem will persist. You're a senior and you are suppossed to be a team leader. Letting an underclassman take over shows your weakness. Your teammates will respect you more if you make a stand. Also, why not talk to the coach and see what he/she can do about it.

Answer 6

if every one is fed up then let it take place  the whole team  will get enough and some one will step up

Answer 7

Well, I guess you (and maybe another tactflul upperclass player)

should take her aside and talk to her. Try to bring up some of the examples she is doing that is causing problems.

If this doesn't work, go to the coach. You need to nip this in the bud before it gets out of hand. Usually, the coach will have the team sit down and have a "b" session and in the end, after tears, things work out better.

Funny how one person can cause so many problems...most teams have one!

I always loved this example:

If a team was sitting in the middle of the gym floor and they were all laughing and having fun...then a teammate came into the gym all upset, the rest of the team would quit having fun to console her.

But, if a team was sitting in the middle of the gym floor all complaining about something....and a teammate came into the gym all happy and laughing, the person who just walked into the gym would turn serious and see what was wrong with the team.

One player CAN make a difference on the team...unfortunetely, it is usually in a negative way.

Fix this now before it festers and causes desention on the team beyond repair.

Make sure if this girl really trys to improve her attitude that you give her a second chance. That can be tough, too!

Answer 8

By all means, tell her, or let her to continue have her way and do nothing.

Answer 9

remind the girl on your team that there is no " I " in team and if she doesnot stop her rare actions.( as long as u have the other team mates in agreement.) has to be every player gets a vote. and tell her this is how the TEAM FEELS either play as a team or the team will vote you off the team

Answer 10

you have to be open with her and tell her mistakes....

Answer 11

have you told your coach about it? Because maybe he/she will understand your (or your teamates) sitchuation.....

Answer 12

If you can't talk about it...you really aren't a team are you?

It has to be opened up...with the coach as a referee...

and you have to work it out for the team to be able to focus on team play.

Answer 13

Tell Her!!!

Answer 14

throw the ball at her head

Answer 15

my dear friend i think you must take a walk with her and tell her in a nice way or tell her about her self under another name and character to make her think if second ask her what to do with agirl like so

Answer 16

oh girl!Don't b afraid of this *****!tell her all the truth and make her leave this team... :)

Answer 17

I find it helps to pull her to the side and tell her the problem since most don't like to feel confronted in front of a crowd.  If she's mature, she should be able to listen and take it all in stride without blowing up like an obnoxious know-it-all.  If she can't.... I'm sure you can fill in the blanks.