How do you stay mentally healthy and happy if you have court dates/legal trouble and other dramas impending?

Question

Nothing major but I have two court dates next week. One for a civillian complaint which I don't even know what I did, and the other for a traffic moving violation, not to mention other stresses in life.

Honestly, how does one stay mentally happy and healthy despite negative life circumstances?

All I keep thinking about is what's going to happen, am i going to be okay, how much money am I going to waste, should I hire a lawyer, how do I handle this, playing all possible scenarios in my head.

It's not turning me into a mess, but I just can't get my mind off of it, it's always in the back of my mind.

Whenever I try to take a positive approach to this, and all of life's stresses, I always have some friends who I talk to , who just blow it all out of proportion so bad in a negative way, and try to scare me, or induce fear, like I should somehow be scared of all of this.

Some people, that's just how they are. Fear fear fear, drama drama drama.

One of my court dates is literally because some disgruntled unhappy civilian complained, and now I have to suffer because of it.

Then we have lawyers who want to drag it on forever countersue, etc, when I just want to forget it and move on my merry way.

First of all, why are some people so negative and think negatively like demons, and want to destroy your happiness, even if its friends? they take life SO seriously?

and Second of all, how do I keep my own personal happiness and stay mentally healthy and happy

when there are peopleo ut there who simply want to ruin your life, are out to get you,

and if your own life has stresses?

I find it virtually impossible, and I use lots of meds to cope, but I just want to be happy.

Though in America, that doesn't seem to be possible anymore.

For me at least.

Answer 1

i am in the same boat debt colectors threatening with suits i tell them the truth my mom has cancer i stop workin to care for her and if they ta mae to court i go bankrupt they get zero and their callousness hits the news or they wait til she is beter and i will return to work and return it then adress it then. As for traffic courts its a crock designed to make them money but u may get the points reduced  

Answer 2

evaluate the cituation, and pray on it, and give all of your faith to the Lord, and whatever happens...it is in His hands.  be honest, and truthful and let the chips fall where they may...no need to ditch your friends.....just make up you own mind, and put the faith in the Ones that you know are true, God and Jesus...and the rest will fall into place.

Answer 3

You don't even have to ask God. God is already with you in this, working with you and helping you. God is already within you making you stronger and keeping you balanced and friendly. God is that motivating force which keeps you going forward when everyone else wants to quibble and argue and make it go on forever.

The more you can turn it totally over to God and just let God handle the whole thing the more calm and collected you will be. It seems to take a lifetime to find that God centre inside you, but you will find it, just like I did. It sort of comes to you whether you understand it or not. It is that place you keep returning to within you when you get upset. That is your God place.

So, relax and just give it over. It's okay to be upset. It's okay to dwell on it. It's okay to set it aside. It will work out okay. It will be one more thing you have gone through and it will make you stronger. When someone in your future is all upset and bent out of shape you will be able, thanks to this experience you are in right now, to witness for strength and calm, and your conviction and ring of the truth about this will empower and help the other person later. You must know one of the reasons all of this is happening is so you will know the territory and know how to help others when they are all upset and off-centre.

Answer 4

As per the low suit and similar problems like that, what turns to be quite useful is: imagine the ultimate result (the meanest) and try to adopt it. That helps reduce the worries about it until it actually happens (meanwhile, of course you take a sensible action to defend yourself to your extend).

Regarding friends; it´s smart not to talk about problems much with friends. People tend to feel "hurt"(often without being really aware of it) and most commonly because they themselves don´t cope with life problems too good.

Inner happiness comes by itself by eliminating other "poisons". You are a positive person (very clear from what you just wrote) and I´m sure you could watch things around you with positive eyes( try to understand others with all sort of their problems, dissatisfactions sadnesses etc.) In other words, put yourself ABOVE all small insignificant issues and things and search for things of your interest that make you feel happy.