How do you stop a child from?

Question

i have a child and they still wet the bed .. the child is 12 how do i solve the problem ?? no stupid answers either i would like to get it clear..

Answer 1

toiletry habits are systematic with emotional strength..

focus on them

but explain at 12 if your going to do it you can clean it up yourself - non blaming - matter of fact

teach them how you would like it cleaned

go through the washing machine procedures

hanging out on line etc..

remaking bed

Then if he's doing it for attention - it didn't work and they've cost themselves a lot more time than it would have taken to go.

Try to not focus on it, try to deal with it.

"well if your going to have that problem - you better learn how to deal with it style".

Answer 2

My little brother has the same problem except he's 8. My parents make him wear "Good Nights" when he goes to sleep. They are like big kid diapers. My parents also make sure he uses the bathroom right before he goes to bed.

Answer 3

boy or girl, well I would talk to the doctor first but also try and make sure that he/she uses to bathroom right before bed, and don't do what alot of people do, stop all drinks after 6 pm as this does not work.  My six year old girl had this problem last year and her doctor said" stopping fluids after 6 does not work, but he did say she doesn't wake up at night to use the bathroom so she goes right before bed and I was walking her to the bath at mid-night so she would get used to the feeling of getting up and going back to bed.  It took a few weeks to get her into a routine, and now she is fine...  No more wet nights she now gets up on her own and goes right back to sleep.  I also had a friend and her son had this problem until he was 14 but there was an amotional problem she didn't know about till after the doctor spoke to him.  so be carefull.

Good luck!

Answer 4

have you talked to him about it to see if he is aware of going before he wakes up wet?  Does he drink too much before he goes to bed?  That last cup of water could just be enough to cause the accidents.  Possible he is afraid of the dark and not wanting to get out of bed at night?  Which a night light in his room, the bathroom and/or the hall between may help.

Have you tried the good nights, they have underpant and boxer styles which will help save your laundry and maybe build his confidence by being able to change himself quickly and not have to have you help him change his bed later.

Restless nights from this could have him sleeping heavier at night and he may not feel the urge to go when he is asleep.

The 2 hours before bedtime, say 7-8 have minimal drinks and 8-9 no drinks.  Have him potty 1 hour, 30 minutes and right before getting in to bed.  15-20 minutes after he goes to bed check on him, if he is still up have him try to potty again.

He he goes to bed at 9 and you or the other parent goes to bed at 11 or 12, you could wake him to go potty.

Is there a certain time that this usually happens, like 2 am or something?  How about an alarm to wake him up to go potty before the accident may occur?

Aside from trying ideas to help him on his own to control it, you may want him to see his doctor about this.  I think they have meds to help, but kids on meds is soooo sad to even think of though sometimes there is no other alternative.

Good luck.  I'm sure he is as ready to solve this as you are.  (appologies if this a girl, with 3 boys it is easy to assume the child is a boy when no s*x is given)

Answer 5

my little sister was like that and my mom had to take her to the Dr. because it just wouldn't stop at first we thought because it was a big house, we thought it was that she was scred but it ended off being that she had something wrong with her bladder she is now 22 and still taking medication> No she does not pee on the bed or anything like tha but now she's up constantly in the middle of the night and cant not sleep.But I recommend you to take her or him to see a Dr.

Answer 6

try to figure out if your child is upset about something. if there is a social promblem like at school or something,try to handle it without making your child feel your "embrassing them". if not take them to the doctor to see if they have something wrong with the bladder or kidneys. if all else fails your child may just might hold on to a small child thing. kinda of like someone holding on to "blankie" or a "teddy bear.

Answer 7

Go to the Doctor because if something is wrong with your child..... Let's just stop there because no one wants anything to be wrong right?

Answer 8

You might want to take him to the doctor to see if he has a problem,my friends daughter is almost 9 and still wears pull-ups.They also have these pads you put under the child and when it goes it just goes into the pad and then you throw it in the washer and put it back for the next night.

Hope i helped.[:

Answer 9

Make sure your child doesn't drink any liquids an hour before bed and have them use the restroom right before they go to sleep and see if that works

Answer 10

I'm not trying to be funny, but is the bathroom near his bedroom?

Or, he could be a heavy sleeper and doesn't wake up to 'use it'.

Or he could have bladder problems.

Good luck.

Answer 11

I had a similar problem...from when I was potty trained till age 8 I had little accidents a couple times a year or so...nothing big...but when i hit 8 it really started to happen...so my mom put me in pull-ups until it stopped...and around the time I turned 9 it stopped...weird i know...but then when I turned 12 I started having the occasional accidents again...earlier this year( I am 14 now) I had some big accidents...my mom said if it happens one more time she would put me in goodnites(pull-up style diapers for older bedwetting kids)...but luckily nothing happened and I didn't do it again.

Answer 12

you can't solve this one on your own, you have to consult a doctor. I'm not saying this is the case, but it may indicate something a tad more serious that bladder control issues.

Answer 13

Take child to Doctor. My doc suggested that i set an alarm for my child every two hours to go to bathroom. child was heavy sleeper. it is a pain at first but the body gets used to being woke up when the bathroom is needed. also, put a plastic bed liner on the bed to help with easy clean up in case of accidents. I have also been told that cranberry pills taken on a regular basis will help.

Good luck!

Answer 14

would that have somee thing to do a kindey problem.. im not ssure.. take 'em to the doctor

Answer 15

My brother had this problem right up until he was 16 years old (talk about embarassing for him!). My mom finally took him to the doctor when he was 13 and they ran a bunch of tests. Basically his bladder wasn't developing as quickly as the rest of his body (so he was 13 but his bladder was the size of a 6 year olds). He stopped drinking anything after 7pm and went to the bathroom right before bed - this cut down on alot of accidents and eventually he grew out of it, but still has to be careful how much he drinks in the evenings.

My suggestion would be to take your child to the doctor and make sure nothing is physically wrong. I don't think any child WANTS to wet the bed and by not blaming them will make sure there's no anxiety about the situation. Hope this helps!

Answer 16

At that age you need to speak to the pediatrician. There are medical conditions that could be causing this, some related to the bladder and some to the sleep cycle. Usually it is nothing more serious than waiting for the bladder to catch up to the rest of the body and/or a matter of conditioning night-time awareness of a need to use the toilet. No drinks 2 hours before bedtime and setting an alarm clock to wake the child to go to the bathroom through the night may help. You may need to experiment a little to find the right time to keep an accident from happening. Good luck!

Answer 17

it is not your childs fault...  take him  to the doctor...

Answer 18

no liquids before bed, make him use the bathroom before bed, tell him not to think of water.

Answer 19

take them to your family doctor.

Answer 20

i would advise for you to take him to the doctor as well. my brother had the same thing and well the doctor said he might be nervous or there is something going on with him that he wont tell. maybe if there are problems at home or at school.

Or just take him to the bathroom before he goes to sleep. It may be something is going on that he just wont say. Hope this helps.!! Just take him to the doc.!! =D