How do you stop being so self conscious?

Question

I suffer from social anxiety and feel self conscious all the time, especially around people. I feel as if I am not good enough and feel like people are judging me badly. I so want to get on with my life but feel like this is holding me back. Does anyone have any tips?

Answer 1

Hey there, it's not always easy to stop being so conscious. It's not always easy to gain high self-esteem, but it's definitely possible. You need to start thinking positive of yourself and you need to stop thinking that people are out there just to judge you. I can honestly say that in life, people are going to judge you, but you have to accept that fact and move on. Know that no body's perfect and we don't expect you to BE perfect. If you feel uncomfortable with your body, make a change. I hope this addressed your concern in a mannerly way.

Answer 2

I know how you feel. I went through the same problems for 5-7 years(although they were talking about me behind my back)

Just be yourself and people will accept you for who you are.

your friends accept you and thats all you need

Answer 3

ok i can help you a lot with this because i have social anxiety too...its not that easy..i have it good because i have a mother who never gives up on me...if your like me i make plans and then brake them at the last second because i just don't wanna go...just go...as for the judging part i felt the same but every day i tell myself that i'm awesome and i think about my good qualities and i figure if people don't like me then f*ck 'em because guess what you are good enough...i'm sure you're more than good enough and if people can't see that its there loss...good luck and don't give up

Answer 4

Challenge yourself to be in positions where this discomfort is most acute.  I used to be shy around people.  I found myself in a support position job where I constantly had to interact face to face with customers.  Eventually it became second nature and I am now confident in striking up a conversation with anybody.  The greatest fear anyone has is public speaking.  Master that fear and you can master all others.  I did it by becoming a reader at church.  The first time, I was shaking so badly that I could hardly stand. Now when I read, I have NO butterflies.  I have written and given technical presentations that lasted for hours, to audiences who were primed to go for the throat if they sensed weakness.

Public Karaoke is a good way to kill those butterflies, too.  

Just don't be a wallflower!  meet your anxiety head-on, and you will find looking back that the only thing you have to fear is fear itself.

Answer 5

I also have Social Anxiety. After years of self medicating myself with alcohol I finally went to the doctor. Millions of people have anxiety, it is not uncommon. Just go see a doctor and tell them how you feel. Good luck and hang in there, you will be fine!