How do you stop from being so needy?

Question

Everyone I know says I am a very needy person and that it can be very taxing on any relationship that I have, friendship or relationship wise. I also know that it is a big turn off to the other s*x to be clingy and needy. I really want to try and change but I just don’t know how!

Answer 1

it's an attitude adjustment you need. You have to realize that anything you want you need to get yourself, don't ever depend on the kindness of others to get you through life. Then when people actually care about you and what you need and want you will be grateful for it.

Answer 2

well you've got to learn to give people their space, if you are constantly bugging your friends or significant other, it can become annoying, perhaps try talking to the people around you, and have them tell you when you are getting to clingy.. and maybe you can begin to pay attention to those little things you do that bother people

Answer 3

My ex-girlfriend was like that, too.

You should read books and watch movies and stuff like that, so you'll have substantial things to talk about in a relationship, as opposed to just saying "I love you" fifty times a day.

Answer 4

huh

Answer 5

well it sounds like there might be something that's going on with you since you were small, who knows only you, maybe you could talk to someone about this problem. Try to keep an eye on all the things that you seem to do as you change some of those ways it will become easier to do, also you could tell your friends to let you know when your doing it, we don't always know what were doing wrong unless someone points it out to us, habits wont go away over night so just keep working on it, it'll get easier I promise....

Answer 6

i always laugh at myself and say im needy.

but anyways u seriously just gotta act like ur not. it may be hard. but its a turn on when u act not needy and then 4months into realtionship we find out u r .

practice enjoying life alone get a gym membership maybe

Answer 7

i dont understand the question

Answer 8

well, try and be more indapendant, do things on your own, like have your own hobby, try and be a leader instead of a follower, and dont call people multiple times, just call, and wait for them to call back

Answer 9

i used to be the same way friend. i didnt have much of a social life in high school and it almost ruined me in college but i figured out a sure fire way of fixing it and it works.

you have to pretend not to want anybody and not care as much about things. if you are relaxed and stuff people tend to go to those people and then when they get to know you they can help you by showing you that you dont have to be needy. people can bring out the best in others.

so yeah hope that helps.

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Answer 10

You can start by believing in yourself, which is easier said than done. The way to make it happen is by examining the things in your life that cause you to feel needy. Put them on paper and work on small things in each area that you can change. Eventually increase your control until your old habit of being needy has changed. Continually visualize how you need to act. You can be what you can see.

Answer 11

This is just coming from personal experience, most of the people I know who are needy or consider themselves needy, its because they have low self esteem or are very unsure of themselves.  Its like they depend on other people to make themselves feel good, or they expect other people to provide the reassurance that they can't give themselves.  I'm not sure what kind of neediness your talking about.  I love my friends that are this way, I just wish they could see the good things in themselves that I see and learn to trust themselves more. Good Luck!

Answer 12

Hi ... i'm sorry to hear you're having this problem.

I think that there really needs to be a healthy balance between our love relationship and other parts of our lives.  So, when you're not with your partner, find other things to do besides waiting by the telephone.  Life is not all about the relationship.... keep your friends, and keep in touch with them, do things with them.  

Find a hobby or something productive to keep you occupied in your spare time.  You could go to the gym, or take your dog for a hike... You could do something with a family member, or even do some  cleaning.  

It's nice to have a relationship, but when our relationship is the very core of our existence, our lives aren't very healthy.

take care.