How do you stop loving someone?

Question

I am totally crazy about this girl, and I have been for a while. The problem is that she is way out of my league- she's beautiful, she's classy, she's popular and every guy wants her; I'm just a no-name nothing. I've tried several times to reach out to her, but she just doesn't like me back; I think she's actually repulsed by me... I've humiliated myself several times in my efforts to show her how I feel, and now I feel like a loser, but I still have such strong feelings for her. How can I make it go away? How can I just stop liking her, because it hurts?

Answer 1

awh dont give up =\

thats what i thought about my bf b4 we went out

hes super cute, so popular, smart, athletic, but i found out that he felt the same way about me and he thought he was out of my league!

i thinks im beautiful, sweet, smart, so nice, and so loveable

dont give up if u really like this girl, keep trying ur not a loser u may think ur making a fool of urself but 9/10 times she doesnt think that

dont worry ull get the girl [=

Answer 2

You can't. Just ask her to her face "do you like me?" or something to that effect and you'll either have struck gold or fall out of love with her. Good luck.

Answer 3

Give your feeling time...

Answer 4

Stop being so down on yourself. How do you figure she is to good for you, stop that. You are good enough. You are as good as you allow yourself to be. YOu need self confidence and esteem. Also just be yourself, don't get all nervous, just be yourself. If she doesn't like you, it doesn't mean you are repulsive or not good enough, maybe she likes a diff. type, or is in a relationship, but why not be friends. If she is repulsed by you then clearly you are a better person then her and she clearly is not in your league, she is below it. So just be you, and chin up. We all go through this, but what matters is that you know that oyu are good enough, don't ever think differently!!!

Answer 5

Aw, well you should give yourself more credit. That's awesome that you did all of that. Be more confident too. Sometimes girls are just real bi**hes and don't see when something good is right in front of them. And as for forgetting about your feelings for her..they're not gonna go away right away. when you like someone that much and then it doesn't work out..it takes time. try moving on and keeping your mind off of her. it'll be hard at first, but you'll find that in time it'll be easier. hang in there and good luck with everything.  

Answer 6

If she's indeed "repulsed" by you, I don't think she's worth keeping anyway. She sounds shallow. Despite that, if you come from such different worlds, you'd have little in common. That's probably why she's so "out of your league."

It's not love, bro. You're not going to be happy if 90% of the relationship is your effort, and you get 10% back. You're just admiring a pretty girl.

Answer 7

sorry you don't. the love that you feel for that person is replaced by love for another. just give it time, it'll happen.

i'm not saying that you should just go out and fall in love with anybody either.

Answer 8

The answer is, you can't, really.  Emotions can't be controlled all the time; only actions can be controlled.

The best thing to do is to let yourself feel sad for a while, recognize that you are grieving.  Then involve yourself in other activities that don't include her.  Don't spend lonely hours at home pining over what you can't have.

If that really doesn't work, you can always try rubber band therapy.  Wear a rubber band around your wrist and whenever you find yourself thinking of her in a painful way, SNAP it.

Answer 9

wow ( cry cry) i no how u feel. what helped me to get over him was distance. i stopped calling him, hangin out with him, hangin out with his friends,  eventually a year later i could finally say i was over him. but sumtimes its better not to give up, if u really think she is repulsed by u and u don't have a chance in h**l with her, then all u really can do is get over her. trust me when i say it's going to take a while. ur always going to love her though, u can get around that.

Answer 10

If she knows you like her and she doesn't like you then move on. Or

    just be yourself ask her questions talk about stuff she would be into..Then maybe ask her to go out for a drink if you can maybe do a group thing.. Just be little more confident not too much though cause that will make her turn the other way..good luck you seem like a great guy To stop liking her keep busy start cooking maybe hangout with the guys  more.. workout!!!

Answer 11

Don't ever give up on a girl because normally 9 out of 10 times they feel too scared about you as you are about them just give it time then make another move. Take a few breaths and let it in and accept the fact that you are in love. It may hurt but it is way worth it because normally in the end you are the guy she has always dreamed of. Normally guys end up being jerks but if you show her respect and actually show her you care and mean it then you will be totally her every dream. Don't put yourself down because even if it does not work out you still have chance and normally when the feeling does not go away it means they have some part of you attached to them. Who knows, you might end up with her real soon if you show her some signals that you want her. When the feeling goes away then it wasn't meant to be. But good luck with everything and soon things will go your way if you really believe and if you try your hardest.. GOOD LUCK.. i really hope i could help.

Answer 12

that's the thing dude u fell for a women ur not supposed to love them have fun with them but dont love them  

Answer 13

The only way you will be able to get her out of your system is to find something or someone else to focus your attentions on.  Good luck.

Answer 14

you don't stop liking her; until you want to.

you have to ask yourself...

why do you like her? has she shown any qualities other than beauty that you like?

I get the feeling that you are really shy as well. work on it.

easy way... as you walk past people

smile, make eye contact  for a second and say hi. and mean it.

your confidence will rise and the right girl will notice.