How do you stop over analyzing everything and not worry about what other people think of you?

Question

Now that I'm back in school, my last semester in college, I tend to over analyze things and worry about what other people think of me. When the professor gives out his lecture and points to certain students asking them questions, but never ask me anything, I tend to over analyze that. I think to myself, "do I look stupid?" , "do I not look business material?" , "do I not fit into this class room?" I'm a pretty quiet shy person in class, so it's hard for me to socialize, so I normally sit quiet. I tend to wonder why no one ever asks me anything or try's to start conversations with me. Am I dorky looking? Am I too skinny looking? Do I look like a troll or a social outcast? I don't know what to think. I try not to think too much into things, but I can't help it. I don't know why I'm like this. Is it normal to over analyze things and worry about what other people think of you? Sometimes I think there's something wrong with me or something wrong with the way I look. I really don't know what to think now.

Answer 1

wow.

love yourself and others will like you.

just start thinking more about what you like and who you are and what you think.

Answer 2

It seems like you have social anxiety disorder. Most of this stuff occurs with that disorder. A professional can definitely help you with that.

Not to make things worse, but people have a tendency to talk to people that look calm and relaxed. It seems that your anxiety causes you to look worrisome and nervous, thus according to human instincts people avoid you. Trust me if you change up your attitude from all nervous and thinking about what others think to "whatever, im chillin" attitude, you will make a lot of new friends and people will automatically start seeing you in a different light. Sorry, its the just the way humans work, all materialistic and stuff, haha.

I was just like you in high school, but when I got to college, I changed up my shy and nervous look into the "i really don't care what you have to say, im a jerk that is really funny and charming" attitude and people started talking to me left and right. When I walk into a room, people know its someone they wanna talk to. I am sure you have felt that way about other people, there are just some people that everybody would like to mingle and talk with. Become like that, I am having a blast at college.

Also Im a guy and all, but if I looked like you, I would probably start getting even more girls and friends. So good luck and get checked on social anxiety disorder.

Answer 3

try to work on your self esteem and build up your confidence everyday.you only feel as good as you look try doing something positive and keep your head up.everything will be ok trust me start loving you.dont always wait for the teacher to ask for a answer you step up and say something.if you feel dorky change the way you dress