How do you take a flattery gracefully? why am i like this?

Question

i noticed that without even trying i accidentally insult people who compliment me or say something nice....

and i cant take a compliment gracefully.... i always end up saying something to downplay it... argh~

e.g just at lunch then, like this guy said... 'oh i like your coat'

and instead of just saying 'thanks' i blurted out

'yer it was 4 bux at the op-shop' and i think that made him think that i was showing off even more, when it really was 4 bux....

maybe coz i was abit tipsy and depressed i dunno -_-

Answer 1

It's just that we are a bit too modest. I know the sinking feeling especially when you know you don't deserve the praise.

How about, "You like my coat? Why don't you buy it for twenty bucks?"

Answer 2

I do the same..

It's a phase I'm goin through. I used to appreciate people's compliments even if deep down I thought it was BS, i'd always smile and say thanks, genuinely.

But now I've started to forget my manners. Like when my friend complimented my skin I actually responded by pointing out every pimple on my face. And my supervisor said I write well and I looked at her like she was insane.

I don't normally do this, I think it's coz I'm goin through alot of stress at the moment and it makes me handle situations without grace.

Anyway, I do know smiling and saying thank-you becomes a habit... even genuine, if you remind yourself enough times.

Answer 3

Hopefully you are not always tipsy or depressed...?  Tipsy at lunch?  : /

"Thank you!" should be all you say until you acquire a sense of graciousness at being complimented.

Always, always be ready for a compliment.  

Practice by giving them.  

Watch and listen to reactions.  

You are going to hear someone say thank you in just the right tone.  Then practice it.  

Hang in there and stop (now!) beating up on yourself.

: )

Answer 4

Just smile and say "Thank-you!" And close your mouth. Make a point not to say anything else and be thankful to receive a compliment now and then. It says something about you.

Answer 5

You need to give your self esteem a boost.  

When the person gave you a complement about your coat all you have to say is thank you.  They don't need/want to know where you purchased the coat nor how much you paid for the coat.

There's no need to down play a complement.  All you need to say is thank you.  You don't have to volunteer any further explanation.

Learn to like yourself and everything after that will become easier