How do you tell someone that they can't bring a guest to your wedding?

Question

How do you tell someone that they can't bring a guest to your wedding?

Answer 1

Tell them there is limited seating and you would love for them to come though. Don't write "with guest" in the invitation.

Answer 2

I had the same problem with my mum (of all people!) she wanted me to invite a few people to the wedding that I had never met before.  After initially just saying I will ask chris about it, I finally got the courage to say to her that we decided to allow those people to go to the reception but we are keeping the wedding list the way it is.  Hopefully he/she will respect your decision as did my mum (who is a very difficult person btw)

Answer 3

Well it depends if the invites have been sent or not.

Some couples on the invites will do

_ of 1 attending

so the guest can only write in one guest.  One the envelope you address it only to that one person.  and if they respond with guest then you have to tell then no.  Tell them given your budget and family size that unfortunately they will not be able to bring someone

But keep in mind the general rules is if someone is in a serious relationship (married, engaged, living together or been together over a year) then they should be allowed a guest.  

Answer 4

First, you clearly write only their name on the invitation. An inner envelope is helpful in driving the point home for those who dont really *get it*.

If they reply with a guest, you should call immediately and just be nice and breezy about it: "We wish we could invite everyone we know, but its going to be a small wedding, so we would like you to come without a guest. Sorry for the confusion!"

Answer 5

You don't tell them anything.  You send them an invite with only their name on it.  If they ask, then go with limited seating.  But remember that your answer should still be justified.  If you are inviting someone with a fiance or that lives with a bf/gf, then you really should invite them.

Answer 6

when you send them an invitation, you just put their name on it, and you do not write "and guest".

a handful of people that i invited without a guest, still RSVP'd that they were bringing a guest. I was fine with that though. I mean, "proper etiquette" is that everyone over the age of 18 should be invited with a guest, so I didn't say anything to the people that did respond as bringing a guest, I let them bring one.

Answer 7

you can use guest card attached to the invitation.

guest card represents one person each..

let us say you have invited Mr and Mrs John Smith for the wedding so there fore you can attach two guest cards on the invitation card."

Answer 8

tell them you're trying to minimize the amount of people that are attending as much as possible, or say that it might cause some tension between other people is that guest may come.. or.. you could say that you're trying to make it as personal as possible so only the people you know are allowed to attend.

goodluck.

Answer 9

Tell them you're sorry but you have a really tight amt of guests you can invite so although you'd like their hubby/friend to join in, they just cant.

Answer 10

Money is always a good excuse.  You explain that with your budget there had to be a serious limit to the number of people you can invite and so that you can have all the people that matter so much to you be there, you are so sorry but that does not leave room for those people to bring a guest.  You are really sorry but you do hope they will understand why they cannot bring a guest  as there would be no seat or preparations made for extra people but you are so hoping that they will attend anyway.

Answer 11

Sorry, we can't afford any extra guests.I'm sorry, we would like to, but we just can't.

You have an obligation to invite if the guest is in a long term relationship, live in or not, with the person you want to invite. If it is just a bf or gf or a friend or relative of theirs, no, you are not obligated.

And anyway, it is rude to ask this. With all the tv shows and books and info out there, one would think that people would get the idea how to behave at a wedding. I guess all it takes is one "Wedding Crasher" movie, and everybody thinks that is what you do at a wedding.

And of course, if you haven't already sent the invites, make sure it is addressed only to the people you are inviting.