How do you tell your parents?

Question

what if you were molested as a child and you get older and the thoughts start to bother you so you decide that you wanna ask your parent some questions (like did they really know or did they ever suspect anything) but your afraid of their answer. The parent is a jehovahs witness so they believe in secrecy and leaving the past in the past ( well atleast to them). What if you went to counseling but you still cant shake the thoughts. Also, your not depressed or have any mental issues deep enough for medications...should you try to talk to your parent about it anyway?

Answer 1

I guess this would best be figured based on two different scenarios.  

1.) Are you an adult?

2.) Are you a child?

If you are an adult my question to you would be 'what would this bring for you?'  I would think (myself) that if I were an adult I would almost be afraid of asking.  Because, what if they say they knew, or even had an inkling?  Wouldn't you then be more mad at them for not stopping it, or doing anything?  Wouldn't you feel extremely let-down by their impassiveness?  I understand their religion has rules, but parents should have hearts and where their children's safety is concerned religion should play no part in their acts of protection.

Now, if you are a child I think my answer is similar to that of an adult.  If you find out they knew it would still sting like heck, but at least you have time to understand with them their reasoning and thought pattern, wheras if you were on your own you don't have those private times with them anymore.

Either way I would still suggest counseling.  I would also check with your local prosecutor's office to find out if there is a statute of limitations on pressing charges and whether you have options legally against this person.

Good luck but if your parents are parents they won't hide behind religion to save their child.  

Answer 2

You confront them and see to it that something is done to the molester.You are not keeping GOD'S word by allowing pedophiles to roam free and prey on other innocent victims.

Answer 3

Yes go for it.  I believe it will help you cope.  They may have not known it happened to you.  By telling them will give you extra support.  

Answer 4

Honesty is always the best policy to get answers that will help you more than medication . I believe you should set her down ( your Mom ) and ask her . Then have a heart to heart with her and let her know you are hurting and you really  need some kind of closure on this topic , so would she please tell you all and the complete truth . Good luck and God bless

Answer 5

tell them

Answer 6

Perverts need to be punished!  They usually molest many, even dozens of helpless children.

I would slowly start to work around the topic.  It there is a case on the news, that would be a good time to talk in general about how perverts molest children.  Then work into your own situation.  They should know what happened.  If they try to ignore this and say it is in the past, tell them you pain is in the present.

Answer 7

my daughter was in her late 30 when she told me her father molested her i said why did you not tell me i could have saved you your childhood, she said he would say he would kill me.or that i would not beleave her, i helt her all night and told her how sorrow i was, i said i am going to kill him, she said mom when i started going to church i ask him why , he did not know. i said dad i forgive you, but i will never forget, she said mom i did that for myself, you can,t hold heat in your heart. to heal from that kind of childhood you have to let it out in the open, tell then you can heal, if you can,t say it put it in a letter. good luck, judy

Answer 8

You need to go back to counseling and talk to a therapist about it first. You wouldn't want to be affected negatively by your parents response as that is the last thing you need. You just want to be reassured that your parents didn't enable the molester whether or not they suspected or knew. I would talk to a third party before your parents because maybe they did suspect, how would you react if you got that answer?