How do you think this person felt???

Question

theres this lady ik that is 66 years old now and she is the MOST gorgeous...stunning woman i have ever seen in my entire life. she was even MORE beautiful when she was 30 and 40 adn 50 of course, she was amazing then. her mother neverrrrrrrrrr gave her any compliments because she was jelous of her talent to sing. shes one of the most amazing singers ive ever heard in my life. when she was 10 and younger she would never tell her daughter she loved her, that she was great, or that she can do anything she sets her mind to, she never said anything like that. when this woman got alot older she asked her mother "why didnt you ever give me any compliments?" and her mother said "i didnt want you to get a swelled head." whats that supposed to mean? thats not the reason why she didnt. and this woman asked "mom...do you think im pretty?" (because alot of people didnt and still might not think shes pretty) and her mother said "..whats pretty anyway? ..look what good it did your sister." (everyone thought her younger sister was more beautiful. how do you think this woman felt when her mother said that? thanks

Answer 1

The woman must have felt unloved and unworthy of her mother.

But, I do understand the mother's perspective, even if she went about it the completely wrong way - If her daughter had an incredible talent and dazzling looks and the mother and everyone around he constantly filled her with compliments, she may become very arrogant. Again, the mother seems like an a*****e, and went about it the completely wrong way.  

Answer 2

I think that the woman may have felt her mother was comparing her to her sister and that her mother believes her sister is the better of the two (favouritism). She may feel inferior because of this. I suppose nobody would really know unless they asked the woman directly how she feels.

As far as compliments go, all children require praise once in a while, so they don't grow up with low self-esteem. Parents need to tell their child often that they love them. It gives the child a feeling of security and serenity and it demonstrates to the child that the parent is trustworthy.    

Answer 3

i guess the mom meant she didn't want her to be self absorbed. i don't think not complimenting your child will help your child be less selfish. they say parents raise their children the way they were raised even if it was the wrong way because they have no idea what the right way is. this woman may fill unloved and ugly without realizing she's actually beautiful on the inside and out.she needs to stop depending on other people to compliment her and start complimenting herself. if u start loving yourself and who u are then the rest will just fall into place. the child's mother may also be handling her own problems from the past. she should stop comparing herself with her sister it's not worthy it.i know cheesy but true.

Answer 4

The woman might have felt unloved because our parents are supposed to think we are beautiful even if no one else does. The woman could have felt unwanted and unimportant. Many people I work with and even I have been hurt by a parent that should have built me up, but failed to do so. How our loved ones treat us and view us, shapes who we are today. It is a parent's place to constantly let chidren know that they see greatness in them--not to be overly concerned with them getting a "swelled head". Unfortunately, many of our parents were not loved properly and so they cannot speak life into our lives.