How do you turn down someone who's invited themself to go somewhere with you?

Question

Okay, so I told my friend that I was thinking of skipping school tomorrow. Me and my mom do this a lot, we'll go out to the mall and a few other places, and I love doing it. My friend was like "Ooh, I want to stay home too!", and I didn't really think anything of it. But when I said something again later, she was saying how she could ask her mom for money, and then clean her neighbor's house and get $50 to spend at the mall. I just smiled and changed the subject, because I didn't want to encourage her or make her think that she could go. It's not that I don't like her or don't want to hang out with her, but I see her every day, and I like going to the mall with just my mom. Also, the trip would be different if she went, because it would be more me and her, which I don't mind, but like I said; I want to just go with my mom.

So, I thought if I didn't say anything, it'd be okay..but then she messaged me on MySpace and told me that she asked her mom if she could go to the mall with me and my mom, and that her mom said yes. I read it but didn't respond. The fact that she invited herself kind of irritates me. She's been expecting rides to/from school lately, and even though my mom doesn't mind taking her, I don't like that she expects it. And her thinking that she was automatically allowed to go to the mall with us ticks me off.

So, what do I tell her? I need to make an excuse or something of why she can't go. I can't be mean, though, because I see her every day, and I do like her; I just don't want her to go with us tomorrow.

Help please?

Thanks. :)

Answer 1

Now that I do know how old you are really does come as a shocker to me.  You always seem older than you are.  And I've been in the situation you're in, even recently.

You have two options, go for for a story that your friend will accept that you have to keep going and take the easy way out or be honest, and take the hard way out that hopefully will lead to a better way.  You want to spend time with your mom, which I think is awesome, I wish I had the kind of relationship with my mother to pick her over a friend.  But alas, I don't.  Telling the truth is something that simply won't work here.  You will have to lie.   Sorry, but that's the sad truth to the situation.

What I would do is create an easy situation that is easy to maintain with your needy friend yet easy to live your live with.

Good luck.

Answer 2

just say that you just want to go with your mom.

Answer 3

be honest with her.  tell her that this is quality time for you and your mom.  if she can't take it tough.  it's better than making up some stupid excuse and getting busted on it.  then everyone will feel bad.  

Answer 4

well i think that you should just tell her that you to just spend time with your mom and if you guys arent like besties or somethin you should tell her that should had at least ask you if she could go then just deciding to go.

but if you want me to be very honest with you and if you like her and dnt want to lose her as a friend then you should just lie and say that your mom said that yall not going or that something came up and u and your mom arent going and then go anyways with your mom

but thats what i would do  

Answer 5

Well for starters, you really shouldn't be skipping. ;] But that wasn't the question, now was it?

I think the easiest way to talk to her about the mall situation is to tell her it really is just quality time with you and your mother. Personally, my mom tells me that I can blame her for anything that's awkward to talk to my friends about - maybe tell her that your mom would be disappointed?

And the driving to school thing, maybe make some subtle hints about it? Like 'so where are your parents?' 'why do you need a ride, again?' and things like that. But remember - be nice. You don't want to start a fight with her - there's a fine line there.

Answer 6

Tell her your mom said no because she doesn't want to take two girls to the mall. It doesnt have to be that excuse but you can think of one if you don't like that one. Friends dont like to irritate moms or parents.