How do your kids behave in the car?

Question

Lately my kids bicker back and forth in the car all the time. We can't even get out of the neighborhood without one or the other starting a fight about something. If I take the books out of the back seat as punishment then I will see arms and legs flying in my rear view mirror in the typical game of "she's touching me", "no I'm not". It really is starting to get out of control now. I drive a regular size car so there is no space barrier between them. What can I do? What do you do? I need a constructive and effective way to get them to be normal in the car. Help.

PS I won't use a video to solve this because it will be stolen and I am not setting up and taking down the system every time we get out of the car.

Answer 1

my kids behave well they know better it is simple take the oldest one sit down with her and say, why do u and ur sis. or bro. fight is there something  i need to know let her tell u and if there is like if she says she stinks or i don`t like her shes stuiped, shes retarted sit her down and say, YOU BETTER STOP BEHAVING THIS WAY OR I WILL TAKE UR TV AWAY AND COMPUTER CELL PHONE SO I EXPECT U STOP. i dont know if u spank ur kids but i do next time they bicker spank them or put them in time out or make them pay 15 cents every time they call each other a name and make them sit next to each pther and look tmake them look in each others eyes

Answer 2

The same exact way.

Answer 3

Be the PARENT. Who is in control, you or them?

Answer 4

How old are your kids.?

I  have two kids age 4 and 2. they love going bye bye and they don't fight. I have a car that is big enough for a third person to sit in the middle  back with the two seats at the doors. so they don't fight. they are too young yet i guess. sorry i can't really give any advise.

if they keep it up, try to find a neighbor who can watch one while you take the other with you. then switch children every other time you do errands. then when they say, you never take me, tell them when they can stop fighting, you will take both of them again together.

Answer 5

How old are your kids?  Heck, I thought you had to keep 'em in car seats until they were just about teenagers!

I'd flat out tell 'em that I would not take them anywhere if they were fighting or bickering, etc.  And I'd stick to it!

Once, my two kids started fighting in the car, and I put 'em out about 1/4 mile from home.  That was the last time I had a problem with bickering in the car!

Getting driven to places is a privilege, not a right!  

Hang tough!

Answer 6

That sounds like my "kids" and they are 10 and 14. Dad doesn't do much about it. Remember the days of, don't make me have to turn this car around. (when it's gone on long enough)  I was ready to get out and walk home. 20 minutes in the car was absolutely agonizing with those 2. They were hitting each other and being very loud. Surprisingly they didn't knock my seat around. That probably would have been the last straw. Enough is enough.

Lay down the law. You are the parent. You are being responsible. It is not safe to fool around in a car like that.

Some is inevitable but there is a point where it needs to end.

Answer 7

My kids are 7, 5 and 4.  And all three are smushed together in the backseat, so they're REALLY close.  I have to say, overall they behave really well.  And I don't have a video player either.

When they do act up, I find the best thing to do is say "I know, lets play a game!" - and we either play I spy, or the alphabet game, or any of those ride in the car games.  It usually distracts them from fighting, and they all enjoy it and get involved.  

If they continue to misbehave, they get punished.  What is most effective for my kids, is I take away their favorite toy for a period of time.  I usually have to threaten that only once, and they stop now.  You just have to be super consistent.

Hope this helps, good luck!

Answer 8

my daughter is only 3 but she behaves very well in the car she likes going out. when she is tired she does start to whine but I can usually calm her with a juice box or a toy. since your children are  a little older you can tell them that if they don't behave in the car they will be in timeout when they get home or they will lose some toys

Answer 9

I solved this problem by letting them each take something small like a coloring book and crayons. they each have there own and use only there own.  I dont believe in the video systems and the parents that i have talked to say then you have fighting over which movies to watch.  good luck.

Answer 10

you can have them play I spy or find the most blue , red or white cars.........something simple my kids love this.we make words out of the license plate in front of us....... it makes the time go

Answer 11

I have a three year old and the way she acts you would think she was alot older. She's quiet and behaves. That's good, I have stress and her not being hyper and loud helps me calm it down.