How does a shy 30yr old make friends? Is it possible?

Question

I don't fit in with the people at work and I am painfuly shy. I really need to make friends because i have no family and feel quite lonely. Someone said join a gym and I could make friends there, but its two weeks now, and it's always practically empty.

I am also on facebook, but I dont think theres anyone on there who wants to be a friend outside of the online world.

Please advise me someone. Thank you.

Answer 1

Be social, say Hi to people you don't know, smile, be happy, if you are happy and CONFIDENT people pick that up.  It sounds kind of corny but it is true.

Answer 2

You can try and have a party at your house lets say a cook out and play a hold bunch of games. Just post company party on a bullton boardin your lounge and see who comes if nobody comes don't be affended Just try your hardest To be outgoing Maby go to church!!

                          Hope this helps Thx Bye

Answer 3

hit the club, not the bar but club, and i wld love 2 be ur friend but im 16 if thats ok

Answer 4

Try meetup.com   Find a group of people that are doing something interesting and go to a meeting.    Talk to the people there.   You'll probably find someone else in a similar situation.

Good luck!

Answer 5

i know what this is like. i have a lot of acquaintances but not many friends at work- i recently changed job to somewhere 80 miles away and am the boss so people don't really trust me.

i have a couple of what i would term best friends but they have lives of their own as well.

stick with the gym or find something else that interests you. if it works please let me know!

in the meantime, I'll be your friend if you want?

Answer 6

yep of course. you might want to consider volunteering at your child's school, schools concils and things have other adults like you there, and thay hold events like barbeques and pot lucks and meetings

if you dont have a kid, make one. lmaoo just kidding.no but you can still volenteer at places, like a soup kitchin or wherever. look up volenteering in (your town) thats how i made a pretty good friend of mine.

check out what classes your local community center has, alot are for kids but there are adult fitness classes, even some art classes too. pottery/bowl spinning are great ways to make friends, people love to talk while doing stuff like that

if you are of a religion joining the church commitee or whatever is a good idea too. churches need lots of adult support, people to organize funraisers, kid play stuff all that. go to your local church, most hand out flyers on sundays they would be happy to have you help them:)

Answer 7

You have to break yourself away from the shyness...you are 30 years old now not 13.. when you're out and about say hello how are you to people and start to talk about the weather, ask someone how is their day going. Just start talking it may seem strange at first but you'll be amazed at the response that you will receive. Place yourself in an atmosphere where other single people hang out, frequent those places. And smile at people, give eye contact so that you look inviting and approachable. It's not that bad you just have to open up more...Good luck.