How does engagement rings work? I want to propose to my bf..does that mean I get him a ring?

Question

My bf and I are planning to get married. Do we get each other a promise ring? Do I get him a ring? He said he will marry me if I propose to him. Of course he will get me a ring as well, we had talked about that. But..he wants me to ask him like you know, Propose to him. How does all this ring thing work any way?

Answer 1

I see nothing wrong with a woman proposing to a man, but the man making that an engagement stipulation? *Shakes head.* A lot of couples both get engagement rings in reverse-proposal situations. What my friends did was to go ring shopping together for their engagement rings.

Answer 2

Wow yeah thats a little different. I dont know why HE would want YOU to ask him. I know when i propose to my girlfriend that I'm going to take great pride in making it as special and as amazing as possible.  Normally people will get like promise rings before even gettin engaged sometimes.  I know that when the guy proposes to the girl that he gets her a ring, but i dont know if the guy gets one (You dont see him showin off his hand to other guys) but its really up to you guys.

Answer 3

I dont think a ring is neccessary in a female proposal.  I have never seen a male wear an engagement ring or a promise ring, nor have I heard of it.

Answer 4

You're bf wants YOU to propose to him? That is really odd. He needs to be the one to propose to you. He needs to suck it up and be a man!  

Answer 5

Yeah get him a ring... when you exchange vows with him at the altar. Seriously, he is the one that should propose to you, not the other way around as it shows he is ready to get married. However if you want to propose, go ahead although it is rare for a woman to do it. You need to measure his ring finger so you can know the exact size when you actually purchase the engagement ring.

Another thing, ask him why he refuse to propose? You should do this if this is really your decision, not his. Or is he trying to be cheap and not pay for the engagement ring?

Answer 6

A promise ring is a promise of engagement, not an engagement. An engagement ring is a gift from the person who proposes. Both people do not traditionally get engagement rings. If he wants to buy you an engagement ring, and wants to marry you, why doesn't he propose?

Answer 7

I guess you could get him a ring, a watch, necklace, id bracelet - if that's what you think he'll wear.

But if you ask, you don't get an engagement ring - fair is fair!

Hopefully he'll get you a pretty wedding band!

Good luck!

Answer 8

Ew the woman never proposes. Always let the man take charge.

Answer 9

This thing works like this: the man asks the woman to marry him. Retain your pride, and don't ask; it makes you look desperate!

Answer 10

I agree with most of the other postings. As far as North American customs/traditions go, it is a bit odd.  But, my fiance is from Argentina and in some parts of South America it is normal for the man to wear an engagement ring.  Well, actually when the proposal happens, the woman wears her ring on her right hand as does the man.  When the actual ceremony happens, they switch each others band to the appropriate left ring finger. I actually think that's kinda cute, though we didn't do it like that.. :)