How does it make you feel when someone calls you Hun, Sweetie, or Dear without getting permission?

Question

How does it make you feel when someone calls you Hun, Sweetie, or Dear without getting permission?

Answer 1

It depends on how I feel about them; when my now-fiancee called me that for the first time, for example, it felt nice, as if something was coming to completion. If some random person who just had a "Hollywood Attitude" called me that, however, I'd be like, "I'm not your(fill in pet name here)".

Answer 2

It depend on how old they are.  I hate it when younger people do it, but if they are older and just being friendly, it's OK.

Answer 3

Annoyed, makes the person seem like they're being condescending and can't be bothered to know my name.

Answer 4

Unless they are prepared to have s*x with me, they are told, where to go, I do not like to be patronised, I do not do it to them, and I expect the same courtesy, in return, but I also loathe over familiarity, and this smacks of just that, I do not want people to use my first name, unless I ask them to.

Even nurses and doctors seem to think that they can, it is offensive to me, if an employee of mine, ( that is what they are), addresses me this way, without even asking, if they can, I want professional detachment, not an unasked for "buddy", thank you, I will choose my own friends, not have people presume that we are anything more than strangers....that is something that I consider the height of bad manners.....

Answer 5

It's condescending and insulting!

Answer 6

It doesn't bother me.  I am also someone who calls people Hun or Sweetie.  I work in the medical field and I often will do it to make nervous people a little more comfortable.  It's meant to be a comforting gesture. So sorry if you don't like it.  I don't mean to offend

Answer 7

if im out shoppin or sumthin and im doin sumthin rong and the lady dat works there is like, 'sweetie, can u plz not do that?' i srsly want 2 just keep doin wut im doin and walk away. or slap her. either 1 works lol. but sum ppl say stuff like dat bcuz its a habit

Answer 8

I really don't pay much attention to how they refer to me, just the content of what they have said or are about to say.  Some people have called me gimp or step-and-a-half because of my crutches, and I let it go by.  Many people these days need to get a harder shell.

Answer 9

its okay with me if its an elderly lady or even my friends, but anyone other than that is just plain creepy...

Answer 10

It makes me feel like I'm at a truck stop or they just cannot remember my name.

Answer 11

It depends on who it is that said it and what demeanor they had when they called me that.  It can be endearing or it can seem condescending.

Answer 12

It doesn't bother me to much but in the workplace I think its unprofessional.  I work with teenagers and I never call them affectionate names like hun or sweetie but I do to refer to little kids as hun sweetie or dear.

Answer 13

I hate it as it feels intrusive...unless it's meant non sexually.

Answer 14

It makes me feel glad to be in a free country where I can call people Hun, Sweetie or Dear without permission.

Answer 15

well..... this is kinda weird but me and my girl friends call eachother honey all the time,,, just a habit. LOL. i dont care if people call me any of thosse.

Answer 16

I don't mind if its an elderly person. There is a customer at my work who always calls me love and every time she says it to me I smile because it's kind of nice that they acknowledges me.  

Answer 17

It depends on who is calling me "hon" etc.  I would not appreciate it if a man were to address me that way, unless he was a much older man, in which case it would seem Grandfatherly.  Meanwhile, wouldn't it be awkward for a person who is accustomed to calling everyone "sweetie" to ask each person for permission?  It's much better than "hey you" if a person doesn't remember my name.  :)

Answer 18

As a competitor when I use to get nervous I loved when people said hun, you're prepared, you'll do great.  Made me feel more at ease and still feels good like they are getting on down on my level.

Answer 19

like if a girl calls me that, it depends on how well i know her, but generally i don't like it.makes me feel like i'm not being taken seriously

Answer 20

It depends on the situation.  If they're being blatantly condescending, I usually call them on it.  If they're just being friendly, I don't mind at all.

Answer 21

It depends on who it is, what customs they are from and what their voice implies.  There are places where everyone calls everyone, whether you know them or not, "darlin"--it's not meant as a come on or as anything but you are a fellow human being on this planet.  There are people who just naturally call everyone "hun" or "sweetie" or "dear"--and it's not meant as anything.

Answer 22

If I know it's being used as a term of endearment, I think it's fine, even sweet. But, if it is used in a condescending way, I think it's very rude. So, it just depends on the context in which it is used... bottom line. I catch myself doing it sometimes, and I always wonder if I've just offended someone, or somehow made them feel better. I think we stress waaaay too much about such things when it comes down to it. I wish people wouldn't be so anal about every little thing there is.

Answer 23

i call people that all the time .

it just comes naturally , i rele dnt mean to offend =X

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Answer 24

I hate it! It's very demeaning and I want to slap them but I get it way too often :(

Answer 25

for some its just natural,it dosnt bother me

Answer 26

I hate when i'm arguing with a girl and they are older then me, they go

"Uhm hun, you're wrong"

Grrrrrrrrr That pisses me off.

Answer 27

Depends on the person and how well i know them. If I didn't know the person and they were around my age, it would kind of creep me out. But from older people, or from my husband, i think it's sweet. I had a woman (white) call me one time from an office and she kept calling me "mija" translated into "my girl" or "my daughter". That was very weird... especially since I don't even speak spanish, and had never met her before. Oh well. I guess it was just to be nice.

Answer 28

Don't mind it one bit.

Just to clarify:  it's h-o-n (short for honey), not hun (the huns were marauding barbarians).

Answer 29

If it is someone my grandmother's age I smile sweetly and mind my manners. They have the right to do so. If it is anyone else I simply respond "I would prefer if you called me Mrs. Stevens".

Answer 30

No one needs permission to offer nice comments.  There  is nothing wrong with anyone calling someone hon, sweetie or dear.  It is just nice.People have to get over themselves on endearing terms.  They mean nothing more than being polite.  Come on, folks, get over yourself.  I so hate it when people think these terms are somehow offfensive.  They are not.  Not even close.  So move on and get a life.

Answer 31

I think it's nice if it's someone older. Someone younger saying it just turns me off.