How does my daughter no this man? :S?

Question

i live with my boyfriend and my 4 year old daughter, there is this man who lives about 10 doors up and he is called james, he is elderly and doesnt come out of his house often. recently our little girl Kiera has been talking about him and saying that he likes her and saying that he has grey hair and seems to have shrunk. this is wierd seening as we never talk about him or see him

please help

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Answer 1

what a creeper.

sounds like herbert off of family guy

Answer 2

you should ask her who james is and how she knows him, dont sound worried, just sound interested.  have her tell you all about him.  he might have walked past her one day and smiled or waved and thats it, but you never know.  you dont leave her alone right?  so its not like he's been alone with her.  its probably just her imagination going wild and just making up stories, but get everything out of her that you can before coming to any conclusions.  who knows, maybe he's a nice old man who's just lonely and just happened to smile at your daughter since she's cute, maybe you can even try to become neighborly and friends of his one day (also, check your local s*x offender list, he would be listed if he's been arrested for anything like that - just to be safe, and at least know whats going on in your area)

Answer 3

There is no way of knowing.  But I know how you feel from the opposite side.  I have a number of children and made it a point to know who their friends were at school, and around the neighborhood, in playgrounds etc, I was a watchful eye.  Now the fact that no other parents were watching is not my fault.  Good for all, because I can give first aid.  However, when I would see a child that I knew in a shopping mall, or grocery store and the child would break away from its own parent and come running to me and say "Hi x*x's dad" or give me a hug, the parents freaked, especially noticeable with my last child, still under 10.  Parents would actually grab their child, say "Don't do that!" and run off!

So, you should take your daughter and go meet this man and figure it out yourself.

Answer 4

go and have a chat with the man, and then see what your impression is of him, if then you do not like then get your daughter the **** away from him!!

Answer 5

Take action immediantley you can't be too safe these days I would def. ask your daugther more questions like how do you know him hunni? or How do you know that he likes you? This could be something completely innocent maybe he has waved at her when you pass in the car or something but this could also be something serious. If you think there may be some sort of foul play I would def. call the police and talk to them you don't want to get this man in trouble if he has done nothing but at the same time you don't want to just ignore this tell the police this and they will understand that you don't want to over look something that could be a  real situation. Def. talk to your daughter about this right away!  

Answer 6

Crepy Stuff. Maybe she's making it up? I used to do that when i was little. Oh! Not calling her a liar, though!

Answer 7

could it be she's been here before?  Such phenomemon is known - although rare as a fact .... without pushing - see what information you can get from your daughter, keep a note of it, and see whether you can research that information .... children are most 'sensitive' because discipline and socialisation hasn't yet been impressed on them and their natural abilities are not yet pushed under in favour of 'normal'..... if there is no danger to her from this man - then let her talk .... you never know .....

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Answer 8

Maybe James is just a friendly old man who said HI whats your name? My name is james!? how are you.. and so forth just being nice to her? You do have your concerns but maybe thats all it is. I know that when i see a little kid i always say hi and be nice to them because i love kids! Maybe he loves kids too! ( In a good way)  

Answer 9

wow...thats freaky....maybe you should go have a chat with this man and warn your daughter to stay away from him...

Answer 10

SOUNDS LIKE YOU HAVE A "OFFENDER" ON YOUR HANDS. KEEP YOUR DAUGHTER AWAY FROM THIS MAN! DON'T LET HER OUT OF YOUR SIGHT! EITHER THAT OR YOUR DAUGHTER HAS THE POWER TO SEE DEAD PEOPLE/FORESEE WHEN DEATH IS NEAR FOR THE OLD GUY....oh yeah that's pretty darn creepy!

Answer 11

watch carefully who you leave you kid with, boyfriend may have made new friends...my two year old was talking once about people I did not know and My spouse was cheating on me and lying to me about it.

Answer 12

have you asked your daughter or your boyfriend...maybe ask James... those are the ones that would or should know the answer to the question. sorry cant help more.

Kids also at that age assume things...and even if your daughter hardly see's him, but maybe has seen him before and say he smiled at her or said hello, they (kids) will just sometimes think they are friends and have stories to tell.

Answer 13

ask your daughter what else does she know about this man. if he have ever given her anything? played with her? you know stuff like that until you find out what is it to find out.