How does someone recover from living with someone with borderline personality disorder?

Question

I am finally leaving my wife, I give up. I have no more energy left. not to mention confidence,self es team,etc.........

Answer 1

if your question is how to recover, i think being away from her behaviour for some time will be enough to recover. just go about life as usual as you can. do things you liike and meet friends and give yourself to your work. i think maybe confiding in a friend about all you went through would help the healing.

though from the question, it sounds like you're trying to convince yourself that you should leave her. you sound confused.

Answer 2

hmmmm why do you have to do that? yes it's hard to be with someone who have borderline personality disorder or BPD but why not go to a psychiatrist?

but, as what your question is..just move on. and if you really feel that you did right then why do you have to feel that way?

just always pray

Answer 3

My husband was previously married to someone with this disorder. Not only it has taken a toll on him but It has also taken a  toll on me. His ex is a very manipulative person and uses their only child they had to manipulate my husband.

What can you do?.  Stay away from her, lose any contact and leave the past behind. Heal by spending time with yourself and in the future give yourself a chance to fall in love with someone who is normal.  

Answer 4

If you've been in the relationship for a long time then you are used to being beat up and put down...chaos and walking on egg shells has been your way of life.  I'm in the same situation and I am benefiting a lot from seeing a therapist and just taking life one day at a time.  All I want in my own life right now is peace.  Go slow and take care of yourself.

Answer 5

Sounds like the abuse has really drained you.

You need to recognize that your ex has a very serious disorder and try not to take it too personally. The fact is if it weren't you it would be someone else. That's just how borderline is.

Some counselling would probably help you get grounded again, abuse is abuse, and you need to take care of yourself. Good luck:)