How does the cryin it out works i have 5 month old angel baby gurl and i would like to know how does it work?

Question

pleease i would like to hear some successfull stories about the cio method :) thanks to all of u :)

Answer 1

i live in an apt so I can't do the CIO at night, but during the day. We let them cry for 15 min, if after that they are still crying we check on them. Maybe they just need a paci. then leave the room again for another 15 min. If that still doesn't work, which usually by this time they fall asleep, than we take them out and rock them

Answer 2

There is lots of crying and very little sleep (from you or the baby) for about three days.  Expect it to be a rough three days.  After that, she should start to get used to the fact.

To avoid her fearing you have abandoned her, you should go back into the room every once in a while and try to talk to her, calm her down, let her know that mommy is there if she is NEEDED.  But what ever you do, DON'T pick her up.  That will only reinforce the crying.  As long as you DO attempt to comfort her, but DON'T reward the crying, after a few days, she'll begin to learn that she isn't going to get her way by crying.

Answer 3

Can you provide more details about what you want to use it for? Does she still wake overnight? Is she dependent on you to fall asleep? What's the issue you need to solve?

You need to be very consistent if you want CIO to work. Most failures happen because the parents can't stand to stick with it, and it is hard, especially the first day.

It helps to have a bedtime routine to signal to the baby that it's time for sleep. Read her  a story, give her a breast/bottle, cuddle her and sing to her... whatever is best for your family. When it's time for bed, put her in her crib, tell her you love her and to sleep well, and leave the room. If she cries, go in every five minutes to reassure her. Don't pick her up, but tuck her back in, rub her back or belly for a minute, and tell her good night again. Then leave. Come back in five minutes if she's still crying, but when she begins to sooth herself, wait for ten minutes instead.

Use a similar procedure if it's night wakings you're trying to solve - go in and make sure she's okay, but don't pick her up (unless she's not okay!) and don't ever turn on the light. Keep your voice low and tell her it's night-night time and she needs to sleep. Babies her age shouldn't need to be fed overnight unless she's not getting enough during the day, so don't worry about hunger or thirst unless you have reason to think she isn't. (In which case that's probably your real problem right there.)

Usually, it only takes two or three nights of doing this consistently to see an improvement, but the first night she might well scream for an hour or more.

However, it's best to do gradually if you're trying to solve more than one problem. For example, if she always wakes up at midnight, three, and 7, get her to drop the midnight first, then start working on the three AM only when the new pattern is consistent.

CIO will also be easier if you encourage her to self-soothe during the day. Don't rush to her the moment she whimpers, hold back for a minute or two to see if she'll calm herself down. They often will.

Answer 4

It's not recommended for a 5 month old.

Basically, the way CIO works is this:

Baby cries.

Parents ignore baby

Eventually baby abandons hope that parents will respond to baby's cry

Baby stops crying for awhile until another change takes place

Baby cries

Parents ignore baby

Baby eventually abandons hope that parents will respond to cries.

Lather

Rinse

Repeat

It wasn't my first choice.

I did do CIO with one of my twins around 11 months old.  It worked for awhile but then she started waking at night and crying again and I'm not going to keep ignoring her and teaching her that I won't respond to her when she cries.

She's crying because she needs something.

It works for some people but it didn't work for us.  Not for long anyway and I feel bad for doing it in the first place.  :-(

Answer 5

I guess I do not understand what you want to know. When a child is throwing a fit, let them throw their fit as long as they are not hurting themselves. If you constantly give in to them when they throw a fit, it teaches them to have control over you and you want to avoid that. You are the parent and should act according to so.  

Answer 6

she is too young. richard ferber himself does not recommend it till after 6mos.

personally i dont do it, i dont agree with it, and my daughter is independent, sociable, smart, playful - just wonderful.

here is an article which is unbiased and it states point for against the ferber method.

http://www.parentingscience.com/Ferber-m...