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How fair is the child support law (for good fathers)?

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I just wanted some opinions. Is taking a percentage of a mans paycheck fair, when he see his child half as much as the childs mother? And, when the man also splits all the costs, and then some. I really dont think the government should take a certain percentage of a mans check. I think that they should split the cost with the mother: food, housing, daycare, medical, school, and things like that. If the man cannot split the cost then he should be in trouble. It just kills me to see all women out there taking advantage of men that do their best for their children. Once again this is for good fathers, not dead beat dads, or a******s that try to take advantage of their childs mother. How do you determine if a man is taking care of his child, reciepts and witnesses!

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  1. Good question.  Solve it in court!  The court sets up the guidelines and how much each is to pay based on both incomes.  In some states, if the father makes more, than he will have to pay more.  In some states, the costs are split 50/50.  

    I am a "some time" recipient of child support on the behalf of my children.  

    News flash -  it is not so much that the women (mother) are taking advantage of the men - In reality, women are fighting half the time to get child support they need to provide for the children.  They continue to fight, even after the court order is established, because often men become belligerent and non-compliant after the court ruling - Some women give up.

    Most women struggle on their own salaries, even after child support is ordered, because the dad refuses to pay or pays very little.  This only makes things very difficult in raising the children when you do not have proper financial means.

    Kudos if you are a good father.  They are few and far between.  Child support would not have to mandated by the court if all fathers were good compliant fathers.  It is because most fathers, aren't volunteering to give, and most have to be forced.  Otherwise, we wouldn't need a liaison through the court system.


  2. Well what do you mean by seeing the child "half as much"? Do you mean he has them half the week and they spend the night, wake him up in the middle of the night, he takes them to school and so forth just as equally as she does? If so, go back to court. If not, deal with it.

    I once dealt with a guy who his son couldn't stand living with the mom anymore (kid was 16) so he left the house and stayed with his dad for 2 days. The dad called the police (me) and said the mom kicked the kid out. I told him she didn't because he was staying with his father who was supposed to be a responsible adult...He said he shouldn't have to take care of him because he pays child support. Isn't that crazy? Ok, just had to share that with someone.

  3. I think you're underestimating the cost of the child for the parent that is doing most of the raising of the child.  When the child lives with you nearly full time, the cost of RENT or MORTGAGE is higher because you have an extra room.  Food is higher because they tend to eat.  Clothing is higher because you don't let them run around naked.  Healthcare is higher.  Schooling is expensive (e.g. even in public education, they'll nickle and dime you to death for school supplies and extra curricular activities).

    SO - the point is.... the person that is sending the check is probably not covering HALF of what the child really costs.  CHILDREN are extremely expensive.  I'd think my 9 year old is on track to cost me a quarter million by the time she leaves the nest.  Is that unusual?  No.

    I DO THINK IT's UNFAIR if the father sends child support money and the mother refuses to allow the visitation (assuming, visitation is granted by the court).

  4. Yes, it is fair.  If he were really seeing the child as much as the child's mother, they would not be separated.  It isn't women taking advantage of men, it's the government, isn't it? Which is it? These are the laws, and good dad's don't complain about it. They just do it. If they have honest intentions, they have no problem with the state stepping in and being the middle man to monitor how much support is given and when.  My ex and I had a just between us agreement, and when things got financially straining for him (he had a baby with someone else) he decided that it wasn't important to split costs with me anymore.  So yes, I believe it is necessary.

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