How far do you let your friends?

Question

How far do you let your friends parents run your friends life? This person is full grown not married no kids, the mother treats him like a personal servant and also like a 15 year old and then says he is useless. Where do you draw the line?

Answer 1

First of all, YOU don't.  Your friend is the one that needs to grow up and stand up for him/herself.  You butting in may only cause problems.  They may resent you for it.  One of them at least, definitely will.  An outsider shouldn't mess around in someone else's family, regardless of right or wrong.  If your friend doesn't want to grow a set of balls and act like an adult.....that's their problem.

Answer 2

If I was the kid I would sayThis is where I draw the line. You treat me as if your the queen and I'm some lousy servant!

Answer 3

You can't draw the line anywhere because, care though you may, it's not your concern. It's likely that his parents treat him like a child because he acts like a child and accepts it. It is incumbent on everyone to establish boundaries with their parents....think of it as a rite of passage into adulthood. If that's a step he never takes, he doesn't move forward...no one could possibly do it for him. The more discomfort he feels, the more he should come to that realization. Basically, the ball is in his court where it has been all along.

Answer 4

You draw the line now...  

Answer 5

YOU don't draw the line...your friend has to..