How grieving the loss of a loved one is influenced by individual and circumstantial factors?

Question

discuss please

Answer 1

Grieving is a long and slow process depending on how close the decedant was to them (ie mother/father) and the circumstances of the death (ie whether the person suffered or whether all of the events surrounding the death are known).

Other feelings are factored in as well, regret and even anger (ie suicide, overdose). Reconcilliation may not come for years, or ever.

Answer 2

Of course it is influenced by individual factors. If it is a quick traumatic death, it can sometimes be hard to come to terms with, and can leave you in a kind of limbo for some time...If it is due to a long illness then the grieving may have already happened before the death, and it may be a relief that they are no longer in pain.

But all death is dealt with differently by different people. I compress it and turn it into a celebration of their life...This annoys some of my family no end as they feel I should be sad and mournful...Perhaps they are right...but I dont feel I am disrespecting my lost loves by remembering how amazing they made me feel while I was with them. It helps me to remain connected to them.

Answer 3

The world does not stop spinning for anyone. We all suffer at one point in time. I grieve daily in some way for my loss of loved one, and sometimes get angry that they are gone, but as a realist I crush it down until a more opportune time.