How hard is it for a guy to get 50/50 physical custody?

Question

I'm a 27 yr old who has a kid on the way and the mom is very difficult. We were never togaether just a friends w/benefits thing. I would like to get 50/50 PHYSICAL custody because I think it would be best for my daughter to spend an equal amount of time with both parents.

Answer 1

IF you hire a great lawyer I am sure you will get some custody. Or maybe just ask her to see the kid.

Answer 2

i'm sure it would depend on your lifestyle i.e. job status, home life/conditions. If she is going to ask for child support then 50/50 custody shouldn't be a problem if all the above are in order. even if she doesn't ask for it if you're not a serial killer that wallows in filth and has no job then I say you have a very good chance. Don't let it get out of hand, even when she is proving to be difficult, women always find ways to use that kind of stuff against you.

Answer 3

I agree with you. Try to explain that 50/50 is better for the kid and it is your kid just as much as it is hers. If she is being difficult even after that take her to court for 50/50.

Answer 4

Its a crazy world and women think they are running things. Courts are willing to be leinaiant to the mothers. I was able to get full custody of my kids because their mother could not pass a drug test and chose a bad lifestyle.  Use everything you can against her, but be able to prove it. She will use what ever she can against you. Who ever said butter up the mother, well that was a woman talking. Don't kiss her azz. Do what you have to do.

Answer 5

Well, 50/50 custody is kind of hard to get, as most courts favor the mother. Your best bet would be to *butter up* mom to be and *make good* with her. Become her friend, show her you're willing to step up to the plate financially and show her you are responsible. That shouldn't be hard for you if you truly want in your child's life that much. Then discuss visitation. 50/50 would be difficult at first if she plans to breastfeed. Find out her feelings on it and go to court to get it all finalized.

In all honesty, if you can't *make good* with her, you will likely end up with weekend visitation and 1 evening a week.

Answer 6

Although I think 50/50 is a good idea. I think until the child is older around 4 years old you need to go for unlimited visitation. The reasons I say this is because one baby / small toddler needs stability and routine any child does but ones so young even more.  The baby is not going to get that spending 2 weeks at Moms than 2 weeks at dad’s or whatever the arrangement. Fact is a baby needs mommy more than daddy.

I would read through this links. As well as do some other research on 50/50 physical custody both the positives of it and the negatives.

Shared Physical Custody

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